Do you think single mommies try to make the case with the men they are interested in that they are the better option?

[Robert28]

Something I’ve always wondered. Why do good looking single moms have fat kids? It’s not all but most do. They’ll have at least one fatass kid. They probably never tell the kid no which is funny because women hate “nice guys” that never say no to them, yet they act like the “nice mom” by never telling their kid “no you can’t eat that, you’ve eaten too much”.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I've had several women at this Salon I go to to get my hair cut, cut my hair. The last one made sure to be calling me for my next haircut. She's single mom 15, 16, and 17 year old "kids." She knows my status, nuh uh. Who the Hell does she think she IS? Still, does a fine job on my hair. She dug her trench, let her wallow in it, not my problem.

 

[soulforge]

That’s because 65% of women on the market these days ARE single moms. You avoid them and you cut your dating pool drastically. No one is saying wife them up but they’re impossible to avoid so you just have to learn how to deal with them and invest as little as possible compared to women that don’t have kids.

My experience of single moms is generally, they don't give that much of a fuk about you.

Her kids and her family are priority, and you just fit in, somewhere near the bottom of the pile.

She won't be that bothered if you stay or leave.. Always another chump around the corner to take your place.

 

[backseatjuan]

The PROBLEM with single moms is not her kids at all, not even the fact that you will support jer ass and the kid. It is that during initial dating everything will be perfect, as she is trying to please you at all costs to get your ass involved with her seriously. But when you get involved seriously you immediately become 2nd place to her kid, everything changes - she becomes led weight over your unckles that drag you down under water. You the provider, and she is consumer, not even a giver. She is single for a reason.

Fck single mothers, never say no, but don’t get anything serious going.

 

[Webb91]

I’m currently mates with a man who is dating a single mother right this instant and it has become kind of serious but at the moment I’m not sure what he plans to do with her. My advice and experience from what I have seen is expect to be in for a lot of drama and arguments over the tiniest and smallest stuff. Single mums bring a lot of drama from past relationships and heartache from the child’s father etc. They will be the nicest and normalest girl in the world at the start. Then it changes. You see the real them when they got you in a relationship so it seems. They will eventually let you know their priority is their child and your second place and it seems from what I have seen they just generally don’t end up falling in love or caring about you that much because they can’t afford to when they have a child to concentrate on. They usually have a lot of men/boys blowing up their phone when you are with them because they like validation and to feel wanted and sexy constantly. Not to mention they will prob cheat or be unfaithful or texting another chad behind your back who had more money to provide for them. Lots and lots of red flags.

 

[BJP1991]

Yes. And they also are trying way harder to find a relationship, I have discovered.

5 months ago I went on a date with a single mom. She was good looking and had a great body for having two kids. The date was okay, and we made out for a bit. Never saw her again, though, until recently when we matched on Bumble.

She asked me how I’d been and if I’d “had any luck since our date”. I just told her I don’t kiss and tell, and she told me she dated a few men unsuccessfully.

I didn’t pursue or try to set any date with her, since she sorta blew me off by not taking me up on my second date offer. Low and behold, she’s blowing up my phone daily this week, trying to get me to ask her on a date, which I probably won’t do, unless I get bored or have a sudden change of heart.

Single moms want a man to help them out, a lot of the time, and have way lower standards than a single girl with no kids.

 

[Webb91]

Watch signs also about the relationship they have with their parents should tell you all you need to know. Separated parents. Usually their single mother will be alpha widowed and want a beta provider to buy her everything and spoil her constantly and her daughter(who you’d be dating). They’ll compare you in terms of what you can do for them and compare you to ex boyfriends and bring it up so it seems. It in simple words they are pretty ****ed up in the head most of them if not all of them.

 

[soulforge]

I’m currently mates with a man who is dating a single mother right this instant and it has become kind of serious but at the moment I’m not sure what he plans to do with her. My advice and experience from what I have seen is expect to be in for a lot of drama and arguments over the tiniest and smallest stuff. Single mums bring a lot of drama from past relationships and heartache from the child’s father etc. They will be the nicest and normalest girl in the world at the start. Then it changes. You see the real them when they got you in a relationship so it seems. They will eventually let you know their priority is their child and your second place and it seems from what I have seen they just generally don’t end up falling in love or caring about you that much because they can’t afford to when they have a child to concentrate on. They usually have a lot of men/boys blowing up their phone when you are with them because they like validation and to feel wanted and sexy constantly. Not to mention they will prob cheat or be unfaithful or texting another chad behind your back who had more money to provide for them. Lots and lots of red flags.

This is how they suck you in man.. They play the GOOD wife for a while.

Get you to meet the family and her kids etc... Eventually as time goes by, and I experienced this first hand with my current ex.. You start to notice her only GENUINE priority and source of happiness is her KIDS.

You are the guy that came along for the ride.. You can sense that, even though she does want you around, its not the end of the world if you fuk off and disappear.

She can easily do WITHOUT you.

Also if she has been Alpha Widowed and the father of her spawn is still around, then believe me, you are bottom of the barrel.

Them fathers still have a hold on these woman.. THEY are just good fukin actors.

Add long distance to this mix too, and the relationship is genuinely fuked in a matter of time.

 

[Robert28]

This is how they suck you in man.. They play the GOOD wife for a while.

Get you to meet the family and her kids etc... Eventually as time goes by, and I experienced this first hand with my current ex.. You start to notice her only GENUINE priority and source of happiness is her KIDS.

You are the guy that came along for the ride.. You can sense that, even though she does want you around, its not the end of the world if you fuk off and disappear.

She can easily do WITHOUT you.

Also if she has been Alpha Widowed and the father of her spawn is still around, then believe me, you are bottom of the barrel.

Them fathers still have a hold on these woman.. THEY are just good fukin actors.

Add long distance to this mix too, and the relationship is genuinely fuked in a matter of time.

A girl I dated, her ex husband and father of one of her kids was some fat sissy but he took priority over me because she would always do stuff with his family because of her kid. It was the weirdest thing ever. I was second fiddle to some guy that had a tire around his waist and that baffled me because I’m in damn good shape. I have way higher SMV than he did and she even called him a ***** to me before but yet he still took priority over me.

 

[jaymbrs]

My current gf is a single mom and she knows she's inferior because of it. So she steps up her game in other avenues: cooking, cleaning, spending money on me, putting out all the time. I'm enjoying it.

 

[jaymbrs]

This is how they suck you in man.. They play the GOOD wife for a while.

Get you to meet the family and her kids etc... Eventually as time goes by, and I experienced this first hand with my current ex.. You start to notice her only GENUINE priority and source of happiness is her KIDS.

You are the guy that came along for the ride.. You can sense that, even though she does want you around, its not the end of the world if you fuk off and disappear.

She can easily do WITHOUT you.

Also if she has been Alpha Widowed and the father of her spawn is still around, then believe me, you are bottom of the barrel.

Them fathers still have a hold on these woman.. THEY are just good fukin actors.

Add long distance to this mix too, and the relationship is genuinely fuked in a matter of time.

I believe there is truth to this but what I do to counter that is to reassure her I can easily do without HER. I have a good career, I have a great network of friends and have no problem meeting women. I can tell she hates it but likes it as well. Totally mind****ing her.

 

[soulforge]

I believe there is truth to this but what I do to counter that is to reassure her I can easily do without HER. I have a good career, I have a great network of friends and have no problem meeting women. I can tell she hates it but likes it as well. Totally mind****ing her.

Good job... Do you live together? Or see each other regular?

Mine was long distance, so was bound to go south.

Her ex was also low smv guy.. Looked like a weakling of a man.

 

[Webb91]

Basically morale of the story is my mate is a muscular good looking Chad with 6’2 height with a massive house and above average bank account and the Single Mum still behaves like she does. Don’t touch these women with a barge pole they want the earth or there baby’s dad back or both together lol. mpossible expectations from these women. Never happy. Stay clear lol

 

[jaymbrs]

Good job... Do you live together? Or see each other regular?

Mine was long distance, so was bound to go south.

Her ex was also low smv guy.. Looked like a weakling of a man.

We live about 15 minutes apart so we see each other quite often. Her ex lives across the country and isn't in the picture so I don't have to deal with that. Her daughter is also okay but I don't play dad with her or anything. She's 12 and knows how it is.

 

[RickTheToad]

I know women who don’t want to date single dads. Sorry but for the attractive man or woman in their 20s with options, they prefer to date single people with no kids. It is what it is.

I also don’t blame anyone for being weary of dating single parents because it can be more complicated, but I don’t paint everyone with the same brush and like I said before in another thread, usually, it’s the character of the single mom, not the fact that she’s a single mom, that’s the issue. A girl looking for a provider and some guy to use will amp that up if she’s a single parent, but she was likely looking for a guy to use before having a kid, and would continue to do that even if she didn’t have a kid. A girl who dates aholes because she’s attracted to them may end up having a kid with one, but having the kid doesn’t change the fact that she was attracted to aholes.

Get what I’m saying? If she got herself knocked up from bad choices, she’s someone who makes bad choices, kid or no kid.

Yes, some single moms for a demographic of women that should be avoided kids or no kids.

But there are lots of single moms who don’t.

There are also lots of deadbeat dads out there but also lots of amazing single dads.

If single moms are not your first choice then don’t fall for them, see if they are fine with something casual and if not move on. Some guys try to game single moms then get bent when she hits him with sh*t tests because she wants more. Not saying that’s your case.

If a guy doesn’t want more from a single mom then next as soon as she starts pushing that or some other red flags, no matter how good the sex is it how hot she is.

I think you're taking my post personally. It's not aimed at you. I am only going by my experience. While I wish it was different, the facts still remain true. Is it all single moms? No, of course not. I am sure Kourtney Kardashian is not running after Scott Dicslick for money. But you know who is? China and running her dudes (Tyga/Blob Kardashian) for CS.

 

[soulforge]

We live about 15 minutes apart so we see each other quite often. Her ex lives across the country and isn't in the picture so I don't have to deal with that. Her daughter is also okay but I don't play dad with her or anything. She's 12 and knows how it is.

In that case maybe you have a chance.. Ex not in the picture plus not too far away... Just don't get too comfortable and lazy man.

 

[MatureDJ]

... if she has been Alpha Widowed and the father of her spawn is still around, then believe me, you are bottom of the barrel.

Them fathers still have a hold on these woman.. THEY are just good fukin actors.

BINGO!

 

[AJ84]

I think you're taking my post personally. It's not aimed at you. I am only going by my experience. While I wish it was different, the facts still remain true. Is it all single moms? No, of course not. I am sure Kourtney Kardashian is not running after Scott Dicslick for money. But you know who is? China and running her dudes (Tyga/Blob Kardashian) for CS.

Perhaps I am taking it personally if I’m getting tired of the common generalized single mom theme on the site. Perhaps if I dated two or three guys who had kids and those guys turned out to be a holes I may feel that 90% of single Dads should be avoided lol.
But in terms of statistics and probability, my assumption would be off.
However I get that people are coming with their own experiences and related opinions. It’s best if I remember that and not feel like I have to argue against those views because at the end of the day, what relevance does it serve me whether or not some guys I don’t even know in a forum think single moms are trash lol. It doesn’t touch my personal life in any way, and they have their reasons for those opinions.

 

[Alvafe]

I believe there is truth to this but what I do to counter that is to reassure her I can easily do without HER. I have a good career, I have a great network of friends and have no problem meeting women. I can tell she hates it but likes it as well. Totally mind****ing her.

if that was true you would go after the childless woman, good thing she belive it though, but I can tell you one thing for sure is guys who date single moms normally have issues of self image and belive tehy can't do better or even worse are lazy to not pursue better woman.

 

[logicallefty]

Haha. Seriously of all the demographics of women for a thread topic (college girls, strippers, good girls, virgins, models etc) no other demographic of women gets as many thread topics as the Single Mom. For a demographic that is so disliked and avoided by so many members here, who have had bad experiences with them, those same members sure love to make time commenting about them.

Don’t be with single moms. NOTED. Maybe start threads on how to get women you do want to date?

Lol.

Well, not so fast. Today this forum is just as much about damage control from potentially dangerous women as it is hooking up with potentially good ones. For me personally, the damage control part is most important.