"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think she wanted to hang out last night?

Kuano13

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This happened yesterday at 8:28

Her: Hiii :)
Me: Hey sweety whats up?
Her:Getting home from school and you :) ?
Me: I just got out off Guess(my retail job). I see you texted me, whats the occasion?
Her:Not for a special reason, just to say hi :)
Me: Ok thats fine by me:) so when are we hanging out?
Her:Whenever:)
Me: thats what i like to hear(; you better be free this weekend.
Her: no response since then

what do you guys think? good or bad
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yuppaz

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All good (because she's obviously into you) but you should have set the time after she said whenever
 

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Good. Her saying 'whenever' means she's telling you that she wants to go out with you.

You, however, messed up when you didn't name a time and place to hang out after she said that. In fact, you shouldn't have even asked "when are we hanging out?" She's the girl. You're the guy. You're in charge, and so you do the planning. Not her.

Not a big deal though. Just text her and make a date.
 

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Kuano13 said:
I see you texted me, whats the occasion?
Implying it was special that she texted you?

Implying it was surprising at all that a girl would want you?

You need to ACT like an "alpha" in order to BE an "alpha", silly. Do you think an alpha would be surprised that a girl wants him...?
Nope.
Otherwise, you did pretty well. Kinda worried about how you might do in a longer conversation with a girl considering how many signs of a submissive personality you showed with only a few sentences, but still, you handled it pretty well. A lot better than I used to do. HA! I'm still pretty weird, but... hey, we're all working on improvement!
Good luck to you.
Namaste.
 

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Kuano13 said:
This happened yesterday at 8:28

Her: Hiii :)
Me: Hey sweety whats up?
Her:Getting home from school and you :) ?
Me: I just got out off Guess(my retail job). I see you texted me, whats the occasion?
Her:Not for a special reason, just to say hi :)

Good so far.

Me: Ok thats fine by me:) so when are we hanging out?
Her:Whenever:)

Good. High interest from her. She's open to meet.

Me: thats what i like to hear(; you better be free this weekend.
Her: no response since then

Probably should have specified a date/time. When it's time to ask a chick out, always be SPECIFIC about where and when. If she can't make a certain date/time, that's fine; there is room for negotiation. But your first offer should be very specific.

what do you guys think? good or bad
Once she said "Whenever" with a smiley face, it was time to pin down a date and time. Challenging her more when you said "thats what i like to hear(; you better be free this weekend" was over gaming a chick that was already interested.

Anyway, don't send any texts for a while. Lay low. Let her get back in contact with you. When she does, text chat for a bit (just fluff, no "gaming") and then suggest a specific date time, e.g., "Let's get together Thursday night at C h ilis at 8pm." See if she takes the bait.

I would AVOID asking her out on a weekend though. My gut tells me that she other plans during the weekend. That might be part of the reason she went quiet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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