"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you think sexually frustrated men grow beards out of that frustration?

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I was looking at a YouTube video of the guy that does the Roller Steve Show (a show that mainly deals with male sexual frustration) and he has a full beard that would be the envy of any 72-virgin seeking Muslim man, and it got me thinking.


This type of beard only seems to be grown by Muslim men, who except for the sheikhs with their harems are mostly sexually frustrated, and hipsters, who seem to be evoking the manly lumberjack ethos of yesteryear, an ethos of the man far away from womenfolk in the woods. Of course, it could be that women don't like beards, and thus men who have women have the social pressure to stay clean-shaven, thus leaving all unshaven men as de facto without women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think the sexual frustration and the beards are both symptoms of the same social decay. I don't think they're related, but there may be some overlap.
 

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Pressure to stay clean shaven? Never had a woman who tried to get me to shave my beard, my woman gets sad when I have to occasionally shave it off for a visit to a refinery that has strict facial hair rules for safety reasons. Many of my friends in LTRs are always bearded as well. Many of us are often complimented on our beards as well by both sexes.

The only woman I knew who preferred clean shaven men seemed to have a preference for guys who were rather effeminate in general.
 

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Who cares. Grow your beard if you like it. Personally I think they are a bit trendy right now...not that it should stop you from growing one. I always have 7-14 days of growth. I don't like to grow mine long because it's super wiry and bristly and take a lot of upkeep.

Most women seem to like a degree of facial hair. But again, who cares what they like. For every chick who loves your beard there will be one who prefers you clean shaven.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you may as well have asked if men have crew cuts or flat tops because they are sexually frustrated. It's just doing what you want to do. I can't grow a decent looking beard, so I don't. My son is about half Wookie, so he doesn't shave because he'd have to twice a day. He trims it about every 2 weeks at a half inch.
 

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There seems to be a trend with all the long-bearded old-timey hipsters in my area. I wouldn't be too surprised if they're sexually frustrated...I keep mine short and clean cut, best of both worlds I'd say.
 

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Nop , muslims do that because it is part of their religion just like jewish have that , actually most sexually frustrated men are fully shaven with regular hair style , and very casual dress
 

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It's trendy, whatever that implies. Not every man has one because he's trying to be like everyone else, but for the most part, that's what's going on. Beards are the cool thing for now. Next year it will be wearing a 3-piece suit for any and all occasions. Etc.
 

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There are beards and there are beards....

Rugged outdoorsman... real men.... not frustrated....

Skinny jean wearing vaping metrosexual hipster douches... very frustrated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's trendy, whatever that implies. Not every man has one because he's trying to be like everyone else, but for the most part, that's what's going on. Beards are the cool thing for now. Next year it will be wearing a 3-piece suit for any and all occasions. Etc.
Next year it will be wearing a dress.
 

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I recently read -- and agree -- that beards are the push-up bra of masculinity. All these guys who look like lumberjacks from the neck up, yet they wear women's jeans and don't know how to drive a stick shift. It's this decade's barbed-wire tattoo.

The university set is insane with this right now, btw.
 

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I recently read -- and agree -- that beards are the push-up bra of masculinity. All these guys who look like lumberjacks from the neck up, yet they wear women's jeans and don't know how to drive a stick shift. It's this decade's barbed-wire tattoo.

The university set is insane with this right now, btw.
It's funny because I used to have a badass beard but I shaved when this **** became very trendy, I couldn't stand being compared with those guys. I realized a little while that it was a stupid thing to do and I'm growing it back, but still, **** those guys.
 

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It's funny because I used to have a badass beard but I shaved when this **** became very trendy, I couldn't stand being compared with those guys. I realized a little while that it was a stupid thing to do and I'm growing it back, but still, **** those guys.
feh do what works for you, I only growth a beard on the right way, aka lazyness and my job don't require me to shave lol, its also nice since its make you change a little sometimes
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have a beard. I had a great time today with my fwb and I do pretty regularly. I have had it for years. I got it to hide another chin I was growing lol. It makes me look better I think. There are a number of woman who also seem to like it.. If they dont so be it. I like it, to hell with them.
 

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I recently read -- and agree -- that beards are the push-up bra of masculinity. All these guys who look like lumberjacks from the neck up, yet they wear women's jeans and don't know how to drive a stick shift. It's this decade's barbed-wire tattoo.

The university set is insane with this right now, btw.
Yeah, but this is more about the carrot jeans and lumberjack ripoff shirts. It's OK to have a beard if it's not over the top and you dress well (not necessarily trendy).

Do these hipster guys really think it makes them manly? I think they care more about trendy, not manly.
 

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I don't think my fwb has ever turned down a moustache ride.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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