"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you think male pornstars are "alpha" outside work

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Was just wondering if being a male pornstar would eventually get to your head and help you better give off an "alpha" demeanor/vibe in real life or if they can still come off as needy/creepy to girls?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just my opinion, but.... male porn stars are not alpha. When I think alpha, I don't think Ron Jeremy. Ron Jeremy became a male pornstar originally because he was popular with gay men for his photo shoot in Play Girl magazine. Does that sound alpha at all to you?

Here's more of my reasoning:

1) Female porn stars tend to be women with mental illnesses, drug addictions, or worse. They are not quality women.
2) A male porn star gets paid very little compared to women and puts himself at risk for getting sexually transmitted diseases.
3) An alpha male picks his women, he doesn't have sex with women he's not attracted to that his producer casts for the video.
4) An alpha male wouldn't be doing porn for a living, he would not need to. An alpha male is able to get both money and sex through much better ways than porn.

So, in summary, a male porn star doesn't act alpha on or offscreen. If you still think differently look up some former female and male stars and see how they turned out after retirement. Most of them are kind of sad to watch.
 

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Good points, I hear majority of male pornstars had to do gay porn before they went to women.
 

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As far as mainstream porn goes, with a few exceptions, most of these guys have low self esteem, like their female counterparts. They're there as a tool, and are used as such.

Some of the homegrown, director/actor types on the other hand are more than likely Alpha....but, also some of the biggest creeps out there.
 

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They aren't alpha. They are F-ing paid women (essentially prostitutes). The only difference is it's being filmed.

You can easily tell from the bad acting that, in most cases, the women aren't genuinely attracted to these guys.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I watched an interview with a male porn star recently. He's done scenes with all the top girls in business, apparently. The interviewer asked him about how he picks up chicks outside of work, or if he hooks up with the porn girls outside of the shoots at all. The bloke is pretty honest, and tells us how he was turned down or flaked on most of the time. Once he wanted to hook up with a certain porn girl again cos she's exactly his type, and she kept telling him to fvck off, until he paid her a few hundred bucks... Once it's done, she told him to get the fvck out of her house lol. Poor bloke barely had time to put his pants back on. He's quite easy going and has a good sense of humour about it, so he doesn't call the whole experience "degrading" but yeah that's definitely not Alpha nor DJ.
 

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Gotta learn which ones to watch. If you need to learn how to be alpha as fck when smashing a btch. Go watch a Wesley Pipes flick.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If a guy gets paid to fvck, what exactly is the motivation to go chase women after work?
In the interview I mentioned, I remember he said something about validating his actual attractiveness e.g would that girl fvck him if someone else wasn't paying her to?
 
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goodganji44 said:
Gotta learn which ones to watch. If you need to learn how to be alpha as fck when smashing a btch. Go watch a Wesley Pipes flick.
Yeah If you go around acting like that dude with every chick you have sex with don't be surprised when the girl kicks you in your face during it. He always talks major **** in his scenes because a) the chick signed a contract and got paid to have sex with him. b) Some of those women are BPD and attracted to abuse due to traumatic upbringing so being with an aggressively macho abusive males is the only way those women can get off.

Please don't act like Wesley Pipes when you have sex, most hood chicks I know wouldn't even go for that macho sh1t talking he does.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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