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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Do you think Geraldo is sexist when he says a wife's most desirable quality is youth?

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http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/trendin...anything-else-----is-her-youth-185058495.html

"I know this may provoke a Stephen Smith-like reaction, but I think essentially — although there's an increase in two-income marriages — generally speaking, the man is the breadwinner, more often than not, although now increasingly women do work. But what I think a woman brings to a marriage more than anything else, to a relationship, is her youth. Her youth is a fragile and diminishing resource. So if a woman were to invest two years in one of these marriages, and then to be rejected by the man, I think that she has given up a valuable asset that is unequal — in other words, the man gets everything and the woman gets nothing from this arrangement."
Of course, the mature women on the show were aghast:

One of the four female hosts that he was telling this to was particularly vocal with her response: "I'm like, 'Whaaat?'"
Typical of the bile put out by the commenters:

No wonder his marriages didn't last! First, it isn't just that women work now, we are catching up with men in how much we earn and there are more women entering certain professional field than men. More women are actually going to law school. Many of my friend make more than there husbands. If they get married too early, they lose their long-term earning potential. Gosh, maybe some of us women make enough as we get older to marry arm candy too, but we aren't STUPID enough to do that. We actually want someone to love us. The young gal that marries you Geraldo is waiting for you to kick the bucket....
WHAAA??? I've known a for a long time that this man is bananas. He doesn't need to keep proving it over and over.

Got married the first time at 29, spent about 16 yrs with him (including the 2 yrs b4 marriage. Left in my early 40's, and a short time later I met someone else who I've now spent 16 years with. Turning 60 this year and I'm on the verge of leaving him, too. Will I meet someone else? I don't know and really don't much care. But loss of my youth isn't anything I ever gave away. I had loads of fun 'sewing my oats' when I was in my 20's before I settled down.

I think Rivera must be so focused on youth because he himself never grew up.
So according to Geraldo a woman's worth is like a piece of Livestock and value is based on being good breeding stock. So a women should is like a broodmare? So what if the women can't has bad eggs should the man get a discount or should the woman pay the man to marry her since she does not come with all of her factory equipment? I am just shocked Geraldo can get a way with saying this without more outrage.
And of course, some just say he's wrong, without being nasty, as women have other qualities that are more important: :rolleyes:

He must not really know women that well. Women get more interesting as they get older and wiser and more experienced as I believe, or would like to believe, men do, too. If you think about it on a more physical or sexual level, the man is the one that starts aging way faster than the woman, in a very real and not very good way. A woman's youth is no more important to her overall "worthiness" than is a man's.
Yeah, right! :crackup:
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

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Find me one person on planet earth that doesn't want youth, and I'll show you a lying fück!
 

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Ok I'm gonna bite on another clickbait thread...

a wife's most desirable quality is youth
I didn't watch the vid but if we look at that statement from a strictly logical approach, the problem with it is that a "marriage" is supposed to last a lifetime, or at least many years. In that time, a wife will get older. Hence, some day she will not be youthful. Hence, you will always lose the "most desirable" quality in your wife.

Therefore, every man will always lose the most desirable quality in his wife. Kind of a sad situation.

Unless, of course, you keep getting divorced and marrying younger women.

Seems like a problem of logic there.
 
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