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Do you tell your parents about your GFs?

spax

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Do you tell your parents about your GFs?

I don't. Ive been going out with mine for like 4 months now and my parents are really interested but some reason I wont tell them anything, not even name or anything. Am i wierd?
 

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playa99

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i did straight away
she not go to your place? ;)
or do her parents know either?

i dont think she will think you are weird
but she could think you are scared what you parents will think of her or your embarassed of her.
both which are AFC
personally i would tell them
but your choice.
break your comfort barrier and tell them
 

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So in 4 months she has never been to your house?

When i was afc i would never tell my parents. I was embarrassed or something.

I just brought her home one day and said hi real quick to the parents and then we went in the basement to watch a movie. It was over like that.

Even if they are akward parents to talk to, like mine are, they should probably find out eventually if you are serious with the girl, its just a part of growing up.

Do it so your dad can stop worrying if your gay
 

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My 1st gf I told them due to this:
Do it so your dad can stop worrying if your gay
I've left out random #'s from girls scattered around my house and they look at them but never say anything anymore. When I go off to school, I don't plan on disclosing that stuff to them.
 

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I have asian parents, they talked to me and 100% they disagree with me having a girlfriend in high school. You American people are lucky, your parents aren't strict, my parents just want me to do well in school..
 

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Lol antidj, I have a feeling you are also an american, i think you mean "you white people are lucky, your parents aren't strict, my parents just want me to do well in school..." Sorry, just had to try to make the statement politically correct. Ok, back on subject, i kinda feel weirded out about telling my parents about that kinda stuff. My dad is chinese and he's kl about that stuff, but he gives me a hard time about it lol.
 

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antidonjuan said:
I have asian parents, they talked to me and 100% they disagree with me having a girlfriend in high school. You American people are lucky, your parents aren't strict, my parents just want me to do well in school..
Same here bro
School first, then you can get the girls. (they mean when i'm 40 and rich and then i'll get the girls)

Buuuut...thanks to this site I've been going out with lots of girls...and they have yet to find out ;)
thank god!
I'm still pulling 80s and 90s in classes tho so thats good :D
 
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if she meets your parents = she will want you to meet hers and these situations are always ackward.

I always avoided talks about parents because frankly I have no interest in meeting their parents and I want to stay as far away from them as possible, it is always awkward.
 

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antidonjuan said:
I have asian parents, they talked to me and 100% they disagree with me having a girlfriend in high school. You American people are lucky, your parents aren't strict, my parents just want me to do well in school..
lol at least its better than mine, im' not supposed to have a girlfriend ever. apparently im getting an arranged marriage. lol ya right
 

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Lol man your afraid from your father ( "he is gona fvck my GF" )
Nah .. just kidding ..
4 months are too long .. but I think you shouldn't tell your parents about her.
I don't :D
 

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I get embarrased about that stuff around my parents. Don't know why, I'm pretty sure it's a deep seated fear from my childhood when my parents would always make fun of me about girls and I would end up embarrased. It's like I'm not going to tell my kids to never talk to strangers, that's setting them up for a life of being a chump. Still it's my most AFC tendancy I have left and I really need to get over it somehow.
 

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let me put it this way, i have as much interest in meeting her parents as I do meeting lucifer at the gates of hell after i die. I rather avoid meeting lucifer as much as possible, same with the parents.
 
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