"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you sometimes just back away from competition

zinc4

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I mean when head to head from one guy for the same girl??

I had bedded a girl about a HB6.5 earlier today who i number closed a few days ago... and was already statisfied...but went to visit a friend an hour later at small bar here who had one smoking hot friend who was single and was looking. However, some drunk guy interupted us and joined our table after befriending some guys at the table and one of the guys became serious competition for the HB8.5 who was originally brought by my friend for me to meet.

I just felt really mellow and didn't feel like drinking because of a hangover and just didn't even feel like competing for the same chick over one guy...like 2 hungry dogs fighting over a prime rib sitting on the table...plus i had already banged earlier...but looking back on it, i probably had a good opportunity with her...i just hate outright competing for a girl at a table setting with one other dude.......anyone else feel like it's sacrificing some of your diginity to do so and giving the girl too much to feed off? i mean i will do it when i am drinking and rowdy feeling....but...it really feels kind of lame when doing so...they should be the ones competing not the men...but my animalistic side of me kind of regrets not just taking her... sometimes it would nice to just club them over the head caveman style instead of jumping through the initial BS conversation....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kbomb

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Well it is a pickle.. I would normally compete with the guy just for fun. What is known in AMOG in pickup, but in general outshine the **** out of him. Flirt with other girls, show superior wit and charm. Have the more dominant frame, stronger self-esteem etc etc. The entire game is to throw you off each other's frame. It is always an opportunity to sharpen your skills and game.

But also at the same time you should have other options and losing an HB 8.5 isn't necessarily a good thing, but its also not a bad thing, at least not to a DJ. So you can't really go wrong, either way.
 

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I agree with the above. He's probably spending time flirting just with her. I would get up from the table every so often and flirt with other girls. Don't ignore this one, but treat her like one of the guys.

She will wonder why you aren't hitting on her. And if she's flirting with drunky then she's not interested in you anyway.
 

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Uncharted said:
I agree with the above. He's probably spending time flirting just with her. I would get up from the table every so often and flirt with other girls. Don't ignore this one, but treat her like one of the guys.

She will wonder why you aren't hitting on her. And if she's flirting with drunky then she's not interested in you anyway.
But if you start leaving every once in a while, she's going to think you're not interested, so then she starts flirting with drunky. Or is that logical male reasoning?
 

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That's what a guy would do.

If she's a 8.5 then she will be wondering why you aren't interested in her, especially if your friend brought her for you. I'm not saying ignore her, just don't go full out on her.

Have a good time and talk to other girls. If she hooks up with a drunk mess that's her problem. She is almost worth nothing except for the vag (and her looks, ok i guess). One of millions of 8.5s in this country.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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