Do you regret your first time?

[Rollo Tomassi]

I want to loose the V-card but I also don't want to regret it.

Sweet Morther Mary! This is what 17 y.o. girls say when they're filibustering with their boyfriend who's trying to convince her he'll love her forever after he pops her cherry. It's sex man, not murder. You'll only 'regret' it if you don't wear a condom.

I'm messing with you of course, but this is exactly what I mean when I say that men and women retard there maturity when they cling to these adolescent social skill sets. You're almost 27 (3 years shy of 30) and you sound 17.

When I first got laid, I went to the bathroom, toweled off big jim and the twins and walked down to 7-11 for a big gulp. No blue birds landed on my shoulder to sing Disney songs and no ray of sunshine broke through the clouds to shine on me. Nor did I think "damn, that was terrible, I've lost all respect for myself, I'll never be the same again,...sob!" The traffic lights still worked, the busses ran on time and food still tasted good.

I've had sex with 41 women in my time (just reminding AZANON again ), I got laid first when I was 17, I've been having sex with my wife 2-3 times a week (and a hummer on her off weeks) for more than 12 years now. Sex is a great part of life for me, not some epic experience of cosmic importance. It keeps you healthy in body as well as psychologically. It's an important part of a balanced life,..heheh.

 

[MacAvoy]

I've been having sex with my wife 2-3 times a week (and a hummer on her off weeks) for more than 12 years now.

Is the great RT scared of the red river? LOL I still hit it even though my LTR's don't like the mess, I'm a man and I need to eat every week.

 

[Desdinova]

I lost mine at age 20 to a girl I loved. I don't regret it at all.

However, the first time you fvck is usually the worst sex you'll ever have. The performance anxiety usually gets to you.

This is entirely your call. You may be better off learning on a woman you don't really give a damn about, and then be a great lover when a great girl comes around. Or you can make your first time a memorable and important event. Whichever you decide is entirely up to you. It's your V-card

 

[romangod]

I lost my virginity to a girl I ended up dating for a year and a half. I was naive to her ways but was smart enough to back off when she started to pressure me into marriage. I have no regrets. It was great sex.


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[Maxtro]

I lost mine at 22. I was desperate to loose it. She was the wrong girl and the whole thing basically sucked and I was left completely unfulfilled. I do regret loosing it then and there and who it was with. Now I'm stuck with that stupid memory.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Is the great RT scared of the red river?

Heheh,..red river. I call 'em red weeks. But hell no, I'm game at any time, it's Mrs. Tomassi that doesn't like the mess. I got the double whammy; she's a medical professional and she does the laundry, so I'm cool with a good hummer or two once a month. Keeps her in practice.

 

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Sweet Morther Mary! This is what 17 y.o. girls say when they're filibustering with their boyfriend who's trying to convince her he'll love her forever after he pops her cherry.

Amen, I swear to King Neptune where the fvck do they find these jokers?

Lets just say I'm not proud of my first time but it doesnt keep me up at night.

 

[Colossus]

...on the other hand, waiting any longer could be detrimental to your health. Just put a raincoat on. I knew a guy once who got a girl pregnant the first time he ever had sex.

 

[Luveno]

If you're gonna lose your virginity, do it with someone who is physically attractive and fulfills one of the following characteristics:

1. someone you think you will be sexually compatible with.

or

2. someone who'll give you a good story to tell!

I picked number 2. I was 21, and was the main organizer of some bar-hopping adventure thing for university. Due to my busy schedule, I ended up downtown unshowered and dressed like crap.

Not one hour after that some very aggressive scholarship student grabbed me from the dancefloor, took me back to her place and forced herself upon me(but she was hot so I didn't really mind..)

That's not the story.

The story is when her buxom friend walked in on us in a tiffy about how she didn't pick up that night. Of course, when asked to leave, she refused. She just kind of stood there and watched. Odd? Had I been the man I am now, I would've gone for the holy trinity.

But it is IMPORTANT that they are physically attractive to you. DO NOT do what my friend did, which is get too drunk to think and wake up with a naked fat chick cutting off the circulation to his arm. This girl did not drink....is that rape?

 

[penkitten]

I knew a guy once who got a girl pregnant the first time he ever had sex.

me too, my oldest sons father...
later i found out, everyone in his family had this "first time child"...
why didn't anyone tell me sooner?

 

[steve38]

I have a theory that your first (or first few) sexual experiences will set the stage for all of your futures relations and your views of women in general. In other words, banging some skank in your Chevy will influence you differently than having something decent in the context of a relationship. The age that most of us lose our virginity is a very formative time. Having said that, if you are 26, just wrap it up and get a hooker to break the ice.

 

[Analytic]

I used to be ashame to be a virgin but I don't anymore and I could'n careless if people think being 27 and a virgin is a joke (maybe for 1 min). I spend the past 5 years trying to be able to talk to people, let alone having sex with a girl. I didn't ask to be in an environment where I could'n mature as a person so why would I be ashame that I cannot progress as those other kids that has better social life then me? that's like asking a amputee why they can't play basketball like other people.

I want to have sex because I want to feel good, not because I really want to loose it. I do but not as much as I want it to be a good experience. What is the deal with getting a hooker or bang someone in the washroom to get it over with? if I care that much about loosing it then I will.

If I don't view sex as a big deal anymore and just want to wait for someone attractive enough or care about enough to make it a good experience, what is wrong with that?

 

[Mr.Positive]

I didn't ask to be in an environment where I could'n mature as a person so why would I be ashame that I cannot progress as those other kids that has better social life then me? that's like asking a amputee why they can't play basketball like other people.\

An amputee doesn't have a choice, you do.

Look, take some ownership here. You are a virgin because you choose to be, it's not circumstance, or 'bad luck', it's your choice. Until you say to yourself, this is my life, I'm going to be in control here, you can blame anyone, or any situation, to fit your needs.

There's no right or wrong answer here Analytic. Life your life to the fullest that you can. That IS a choice that you must make.

Don't make excuses, don't pass on the blame. Own your life. It's yours..live it!

 

[LoneSilver]

I was 21 when I lost my virginity to a young lady I met at a club. She was sexy and pretty sitting straight across from me and was with a friend of hers. I at the time felt I needed to be a gentleman and had the waitress bring them both drinks a move to many considered AFC.

I progress and get her on the dance floor and feel it was important to get her to dance to a slow song and while I have her close to my chest she grapped my head and bends it down and whispers in my ear I WANT YOU TO F*CK ME. My confidence lifted a semi truck and so was my penis and in my eyes I was about to become a MAN my heart was racing and I was HAPPY.

I had these thoughts that it will be great after I get her to the hotel room. I wanted to make sure it was good for her by giving her plenty of foreplay which lasted about a couple hours but the intercoarse itself only lasted about 5 minutes but hell was I counting? I knew I shot to soon but being my first time well it happens I guess but to my surprise I didn't expect this sexy young lady to jump up out of bed and start screaming at me telling me I didn't put enough love into it blah blah blah. My still semi errect penis made a quick exit. All I could think to say to her was sorry as I looked away in shame and to give me a minute as my voice broke. I was humilated and wanted desperately to make this up to her but at the same time hide under the bed. I really wasn't sure what to think I was confused. Was my penis to small? Was it because I shot to soon? What did she mean by I didn't put enough love into it especially the time I spend in foreplay she never answered me. I never saw this girl again and she didn't know that I was a virgin if that would have made a difference.

And as one poster said your first time will set the stage of how you view women in general and how relationships go and it was only until recently sad but true this first time experience regardless of how long it has been was one of the biggest reasons I have had performance problems with the many women since.

As much as I try to get it out of my mind. I keep seeing this girl jumping up out of bed nude screaming and I think other women just might do the same. So I'm on guard making sure I give them plenty of oral, plenty of fingering, plenty of rubbing, plenty of tonguing. Let those sweeties know their skin feels good even if it feels like sandpaper, let them know their ass is shapely and fine and let them know their breasts are excellent and make dam sure on top of all of that you don't shoot to soon or you'll replay your first time all over again and be considered an assh*le and loser when it comes to lovemaking.

I have a great love and fondness toward women and love their company but in general they scare the hell out of me when it comes time for sex or even times when I am around them. How many times do I read don't fear women maybe one should have a first time experience like mine and see how they flare then. I guess there are some experiences you rebound from but are forever inbedded deep into the soul and properly why I have never married.

So the question was do you regret your first time? Yes, I regret I didn't get a chance to make it up to her. I guess it was the man in me wanting to prove I am a great lover for no man what's to be known to suck in bed.

I wish I would have had a relationship with a caring woman instead of having gone through this experience with someone random whom I never saw again and looking back a woman who had serious issues to pull a number like that.


LoneSilver

 

[Bonhomme]

The only thing I regret about it was that I didn't let her know it was my first time. She was a somewhat older woman, still quite hot, and had no idea, but when I told her years later said she'd have loved to "train" me had she known...