Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do you prefer sex on the first date?

bigneil

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I had a first date last night with an HB8 and it went absolutely flawlessly. Wine at a cozy bar where I knew the owner and staff, romantic walk on the beach and make-out, and time back on her couch watching music videos.

However, she wanted to do it last night. I was reluctant but you have to strike when the iron is hot. She just got out of a divorce and claimed I was only her seventh (on 7/7)!

While I really prefer not to have sex on the first date, I also know that the sooner you sleep with them, the more they will like you. This is because of a phenomenon that occurs with women versus men.

  • Before sex, the woman is thinking of reasons to dump you and you are thinking of reasons to date her.
  • After sex, the woman is thinking of reasons to date you and you are thinking of reasons to dump her.
So the longer you wait, the more time you spend on the wrong side of the equation. When someone tries to find fault in you, they will.

That said, I still like to wait a few dates. I like when the girl stops me early on. My oneitis made me wait until the 6th date which in hindsight was too long. I think ideally it's around the 3rd date.

What are your thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BS! 7x7 = 49! Never believe that sh!t!

What's wrong with doing it on the first date? If it was as flawless as you said, why not? You should have mounted her.

I know I'm being a bit harsh on you but your "white knight" mindset will only lead you to bed at the end of the night with a hard unit and your right hand.

Get with this woman again and get it done brother.
 

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I dont have to have sex on the first date as long as we are progressing towards sex though each time.
 

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My thoughts are your over-anaylzing. The truth is it's not true that the sooner you bone a chick the more they'll like you. That's b.s.
Both my recent ex's I waited a month before I smashed them. I could have boned them sooner but I waited that long because they desired sex more then i did at the time, and it revved up their interest level like crazy(as both of them are use to guys trying to get in their pants asap)

I made them both qualify themselves to even be with me, and once I did smash it was a WRAP

Does that mean I don't have sex on the first date?, of course I do, but i don't have to do it right away, the more I like a girl I rather wait because if I do hit it to soon i lose interest(yes I enjoy the challenge lol). With both my ex's I waited only because I was spinning other plates and I wasn't into them initially. It's like they knew that I was seeing other women and blew them out by qualifying themselves.

I don't look at any girl as "wifey" material unless try have high interest and qualify themselves to me

That's how my relationships always worked

peace

p.s. the person who desires sex the least is the one who is in control of the relationship and the frame usually
 

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Solomon said:
It's not true that the sooner you bone a chick the more they'll like you. That's b.s.
You haven't done your homework:

"When you meet a woman, she secretly seeks reasons you are not good enough for her... eventually she will find a reason... women never develop any true feelings for a guy until after sex."

http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/hall264.htm

Also see Louis/Copeland "How to Succeed with Women".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Im not convinced either. I've had at least one experience in that I withheld sex and it only served to raise her interest level. I've also had the opposite occur. The truth is Im unsure of what the "correct" course of action is, if there is one.
 

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By the time a man can read a woman like a book, he needs bifocals.
 

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7 is like the magical number. Seriously how many times have you heard the number 7?

Every girl I know has only had sex with 7 people! Lol.
 
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