"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"do you miss me sometimes?"

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So a while ago I had this huge argument with this girl. But, we are also involved in a project together. For the most part, I NCed her, unless it's about the project, then I formally and casually talk to her. I never initiated any phone calls unless it's an important call about the project.

Just now, she texted me:
"Do you miss me sometimes?"

to be honest, I am a bit "meh". I don't think much about her anymore, nor do I care about future hookup with her. I am going to just say "mm..not anymore" but I am not going to answer right away, but what do you guys think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sharkybear said:
Just now, she texted me:
"Do you miss me sometimes?"
This is a toe in the water, and is likely to be womanspeek for," I hope that he still has some feelings for me that I can exploit. I hate it that he has not crawled and grovelled ."

She wants something.

I would reply " Well I did think about you one time, but I slapped myself and the feeling passed."
 

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I was thinking for an answer that doesn't explicitly say yes or no, kinda in the middle but it's not a "maybe". that's a good one, jophil. Thanks!
 

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sharkybear said:
I was thinking for an answer that doesn't explicitly say yes or no, kinda in the middle but it's not a "maybe". that's a good one, jophil. Thanks!

Just text back asking her what she wants.

I.e

Her
"Do you miss me"

You
"What is it your after"


Put the ball back in her court, flip the script.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sharkybear said:
I am going to just say "mm..not anymore" but I am not going to answer right away, but what do you guys think?
Just remain silent.
 

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If you're still involved in a project with her, it's best not to piss her off, you never know when it may come back to bite you. I'm NOT advocating to "leave the door open." It's generally a good rule never to make enemies. You never know who will talk to who.

If you want to reply, say something vague and meaningless, but somehow true about your current feelings (however "meh" they may be) toward her.

Like: (only one line, don't make it a question or make it sound like you are asking for a response)

I've been really busy lately.

Somethings are better left remembered how they were before other things confused the issue.

It's been all over the place lately.

You can never step in the same river twice.

I like to keep looking forward with a positive attitude.

And so on
 

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vatoloco said:
"Who is this?"

;)
I have actually gotten great results with that one...!
 

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I always think "do you miss me?" means "I miss you".

And I will answer "did you miss me?" with something like "not as much as you missed me".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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In$tinct said:
I have actually gotten great results with that one...!
It's actually one of my favorites! :D


Her: "u miss me?"
Me: "Of course sweetheart! btw, who is this?"

Her: "hey how r u"
Me: "Hey, I'm doing great! Who is this?"

Her: "u free ths wknd?"
Me: "Sorry, already have a photoshoot scheduled. Who is this btw?"



Of course, I know who's texting but I play dumb. Then they're all like "nah, shut up! :)" or "haha", etc. I then ask them to give me a call and when/if they do, I date close! :D
 
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