Do you let your woman flirt with other men?

[TempestNight]

Where do you draw the line?

If you allow her to flirt with other men, it seems like you are not controlling your woman, it seems like you are not completely in charge.

If you disapprove her to flirt with other men, it seems like you have jealousy and insecurity issues.

I know some of you may say that let her flirt, and you flirt harder than her. But what if I do NOT want to flirt while in a relationship? This is just who I am, I flirt harder than most other people when I'm single, but if I'm in a relationship I want to stay loyal, which mean flirting with other women is off-limits.

So where do you draw the line in my situation?

 

[Mr Wright]

I'd let her flirt with other guys then playfully take the mick about how much he fancied her and how she should marry him for his money then bring back to me, she could be like a crow attracted to the shiny silver. Seriously though, im not that insecure to let my woman talk to another guy, unless it was getting too heated, then i'd put my foot down.

 

[MainDroite]

She actually left me for another guy (mutual friend) for about a week. I wasn't jealous by any means and didn't care all that much; I was even happy for her, thinking she had found someone good enough. I was wrong. The poor AFC blew it up: he was head over heels into her, got her pregnant and blew it up after a week. To make a long story short, she dumped him and came back to me for m0ar. Now I'm afraid she might love me too much.

She's a good girl, though. Lets me flirt with every other girl and would love to see me flirt with guys, though that's not my cup of tea.

 

[scribblec]

She actually left me for another guy (mutual friend) for about a week. I wasn't jealous by any means and didn't care all that much; I was even happy for her, thinking she had found someone good enough. I was wrong. The poor AFC blew it up: he was head over heels into her, got her pregnant and blew it up after a week. To make a long story short, she dumped him and came back to me for m0ar. Now I'm afraid she might love me too much.

She's a good girl, though. Lets me flirt with every other girl and would love to see me flirt with guys, though that's not my cup of tea.

she left you for another guy and u just let her come back straight into yourn life?

from that moment on she would just be a FB tbh

 

[TempestNight]

I'd let her flirt with other guys then playfully take the mick about how much he fancied her and how she should marry him for his money then bring back to me, she could be like a crow attracted to the shiny silver. Seriously though, im not that insecure to let my woman talk to another guy, unless it was getting too heated, then i'd put my foot down.

That's a very good one.

I will think of more lines like that to play the situation off. Thanks.

 

[thedude4242]

if a women really likes you and is a good women she will not flirt with other guys. if a women mentions another guy you know, tell her you make a cute couple do you want me to hook you up with him.

 

[TempestNight]

if a women really likes you and is a good women she will not flirt with other guys. if a women mentions another guy you know, tell her you make a cute couple do you want me to hook you up with him.

There's no doubt in my mind that she's really into me. I'm certain that I'm the best guy she's been with for a very, very long time. And she is (most likely) a good woman, she had a terrible marriage and loyalty means a lot to her.

However flirting is just part of her personality.

 

[LiveFreeX]

If she's flirting with other men, she's trying to make you jealous... for even more disrespectful entertainment, dump her on the spot in front of the other guy and walk away.

she had a terrible marriage and loyalty means a lot to her.

However flirting is just part of her personality.

Did IQs just drop sharply while I was away???

 

[bean]

She actually left me for another guy (mutual friend) for about a week. I wasn't jealous by any means and didn't care all that much; I was even happy for her, thinking she had found someone good enough. I was wrong. The poor AFC blew it up: he was head over heels into her, got her pregnant and blew it up after a week. To make a long story short, she dumped him and came back to me for m0ar. Now I'm afraid she might love me too much.

She's a good girl, though. Lets me flirt with every other girl and would love to see me flirt with guys, though that's not my cup of tea.

Whoa.






Temptestnight,

Try to look at this from a different perspective. Either:

A. She's not really into you. It's pretty self explanatory from here.

or

B. She's trying to make you jealous. If it's a short-term lay then fine but if it's your girlfriend then you have some serious stuff to work out. In general, you don't want to be with a girl like this in the first place because these dirty games indicate other underlying traits that are never good.

It can also be C. that she's not really flirting and you're just jealous of her talking to other guys lol.





Basically the point is, you don't want a girlfriend who flirts with other guys.

 

[TheZone]

flirting is foreplay. Why the **** wold I want tolet the girl I'm ****ing have a chance at another guy. If I'm ****ing a girl I wouldn't want another man's residue on my woman, nor would I want my woman used and confusd.

Flirting is what leads to sex.

 

[MainDroite]

Dudes, relax. What if she did have sex with someone else: will that kill you or make the universe explode? Jeez.

Will it make every other woman in the world dissapear?

 

[zekko]

I have no problem with my girlfriend talking to other guys. Even a little light flirting is probably healthy. But there is a line that should not be crossed. I'm not sure what that is but I'll know it if I see it. I would consider overtly flirting with some guy in front of me a sign of disrespect.

But for the most part, talking to dudes is fine. I don't tolerate one on one meetups though.

 

[5string]

Wait a second here!

Why would you "let" your woman flirt with other guys? If she does it on her own, that's disrespectful to you and your relationship with her.

TheZone is right, flirting leads to sex.

Agree with zekko. I have no problem with Mrs.5string talking to other men, but flirting? That's a dealbreaker.

I wouldnt put up with it. Period!!!!

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Lol I was at a nightclub once a few months ago and this dude made a big stink about his girl taking her shirt off in the club (she had a bikini top on). He started getting in a pretty heated argument with her, then the bouncers just threw him out. The girl stayed and probably got taken home by another man.

While she may be flirting with other men, and it sort of irritates you.. You can't make a big stink about it, or else it's just gonna blow up in your face and throw you in a situation like the guy I just mentioned in the paragraph above.

If it's really bad or really bothers you to that point, then find a new girlfriend.

 

[loveshogun]

If it's really bad or really bothers you to that point, then find a new girlfriend.

Seconded.

Though, in my more recent experiences, I've found that women are usually the ones trying to control me.

So... yeah. "Letting" never becomes part of the dynamic, because I'm just goin' with the flow. If she's into me, and she's not a bonehead, she won't do boneheaded things. If she's not into me, or IS boneheaded, I need to disappear.

 

[5string]

Lol I was at a nightclub once a few months ago and this dude made a big stink about his girl taking her shirt off in the club (she had a bikini top on). He started getting in a pretty heated argument with her, then the bouncers just threw him out. The girl stayed and probably got taken home by another man.

While she may be flirting with other men, and it sort of irritates you.. You can't make a big stink about it, or else it's just gonna blow up in your face and throw you in a situation like the guy I just mentioned in the paragraph above.

If it's really bad or really bothers you to that point, then find a new girlfriend.

He should not have even argued with her. That was a mistake.

He should have simply walked away and never looked back.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Wait a second here!

Why would you "let" your woman flirt with other guys? If she does it on her own, that's disrespectful to you and your relationship with her.

TheZone is right, flirting leads to sex.

Agree with zekko. I have no problem with Mrs.5string talking to other men, but flirting? That's a dealbreaker.

I wouldnt put up with it. Period!!!!

LOL yes, and I know just how Mrs. 5string talks to other men from your other thread! Seems you are training her well, my friend.

I owe you an email.. I'll catch up shortly. I promise.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I notice that some guys (not just in this thread) say to not let flirting apopear as if it bothers you, but I just can't do that. I guess I'm too aggressive. The kind of woman I go out with likes me to set the rules and parameters, and my bottom line is, no flirting, period.

I think what some guys fail to do, because of social conditioning, is to lay down the law right off the bat.

I'm sure some of you guys are recoiling in horror at that thought, but I always give the "I wear the pants around here" speech, and after their initial shock they eat it up. Nobody has ever talked to them like that before, and every woman secretly needs to be led and guided by a man, and she knows it, if only subconsciously.

I would advise any man to lay down the law early in the game. Flirting is unacceptable. It is indeed the precursor to escalation if the chemistry is there. Why should either of you open up Pandora's box?

 

[5string]

I notice that some guys (not just in this thread) say to not let flirting apopear as if it bothers you, but I just can't do that. I guess I'm too aggressive. The kind of woman I go out with likes me to set the rules and parameters, and my bottom line is, no flirting, period.

I think what some guys fail to do, because of social conditioning, is to lay down the law right off the bat.

I'm sure some of you guys are recoiling in horror at that thought, but I always give the "I wear the pants around here" speech, and after their initial shock they eat it up. Nobody has ever talked to them like that before, and every woman secretly needs to be led and guided by a man, and she knows it, if only subconsciously.

I would advise any man to lay down the law early in the game. Flirting is unacceptable. It is indeed the precursor to escalation if the chemistry is there. Why should either of you open up Pandora's box?

Ya know, this is good stuff. I'm in agreement.

Although I never tell Mrs.5string what to do, she is fully aware of what I will tolerate and what I will not. She knows the boundaries. She likes me to be the leader and be in control.

I rule my roost.

 

[Quick]

She actually left me for another guy (mutual friend) for about a week. I wasn't jealous by any means and didn't care all that much; I was even happy for her, thinking she had found someone good enough. I was wrong. The poor AFC blew it up: he was head over heels into her, got her pregnant and blew it up after a week. To make a long story short, she dumped him and came back to me for m0ar. Now I'm afraid she might love me too much.

She's a good girl, though. Lets me flirt with every other girl and would love to see me flirt with guys, though that's not my cup of tea.

So he took your girl, impregnated her, and then sent her back to you? For this you call him a poor AFC? Sounds to me like he only wanted sex from her and when she tried to start a relationship he ended it quickly.

I'm not on here to fight, but I can't figure out why you think accepting her back is some sort of victory.