Do you let a woman hangout with whoever she wants?

[BobFuest]

My friend asked me this question and it was something i wasnt sure about.
His girl is a great girl and really seems to be in love with him. Her interest level is about 70-80% at least. The question is; do you let her hangout with whoever she wants? She is friends with a guy she dated for only a few weeks or so before this guy and he trusts her but wonders why would she even want to be friends with the guy? True this guy took the prize home but this is someone she had sex with and it sounds like that when she started seeing my friend this guy took that as his cue to drop her a$$.
what do you think? I told him to not be insecure about it but I also wonder, is it really neccessary for her to even try and be friendly with him(the guy)?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

He should either get over the fact that she has a male friend, OR discuss it with her.

I would want to know why she is still friends with him, but that is just me; I'm an up front an honest guy and like to flush the BS instead of smelling shyt all day.

That's my truth, brotha

 

[BobFuest]

i would also like to clarify that in my opinion women keep male friends that they slept with for one reason only, in case of a sex emergency. thats just IMO tho.

 

[S1NN3R]

Didn't we have this exact thread just a month or so ago, and with you as the questioner last time as well?

 

[BobFuest]

Didn't we have this exact thread just a month or so ago, and with you as the questioner last time as well?

yea but that woman i was dating was a HO-E. this guy's girl is pretty upfront about everything. Plus i wanted to confirm that I am giving other men good advice.

 

[jonwon]

My friend asked me this question and it was something i wasnt sure about.
His girl is a great girl and really seems to be in love with him. Her interest level is about 70-80% at least. The question is; do you let her hangout with whoever she wants? She is friends with a guy she dated for only a few weeks or so before this guy and he trusts her but wonders why would she even want to be friends with the guy? True this guy took the prize home but this is someone she had sex with and it sounds like that when she started seeing my friend this guy took that as his cue to drop her a$$.
what do you think? I told him to not be insecure about it but I also wonder, is it really neccessary for her to even try and be friendly with him(the guy)?

To me I would not tolerate it tbh.

Not a nice comfort zone if you ask me, the fact your having to bring it up is an issue.

In an ideal world we could all get along, but lets face it here!
She has had sex with the guy, why does she still want him around and why does the other guy want her to be around?
What is going on here, good friend’s almost emotional relationship stuff.

Think your mate should tell them two to stop acting like kids and get it back on there is obviously something still going on there.

How would she like it if he was still seeing and going out with a girl he has fu**ed, bet she would not be too impressed at all.

I don’t know man not something I would be comfortable in, but then again I don’t worry about women so to me any cr** is a perfect excuse to move on, some guys cant let go of the puzzy addiction to live comfortable.#

Let her enjoy her ex-BF or FB what ever he was, actually a FB is even worse, I don’t trust any women and I have many reasons for that.
Keeping a guy on the scene who has history with her is very bizarre, but in a female mentality frame it is cool hey she is getting what she wants. Make an issue out of it and your mate is just a controlling idiot, so to me the best advice is to dump the women in all honesty.

Tell him to answer these questions truthfully:
Can he trust her with this guy alone?
Can he trust her with this guy alone on a night out and even back at his place?
Can he see himself watching his girl spend time with another guy, possibly even sacrifice time with him in favour of the other guy?
Can he say 100% that he trusts her and he trusts this guy to not try it on.

He may know his GF but I don’t believe men and women can be mates, women can have guy mates but guys cant have female mates unless they are butt ugly. There is something going on here under the surface but some one is not being completely and genuinely honest.

Also one more thing telling your mate how to live his life may come back to haunt you, you should not really give advice since any regret will be poured your way. You could potentially loose a mate here, if he is so stupid and blind to see the problem, don’t be the fool to point it out, you can offer advice if he ask’s but make sure you tell him you don’t want to offer advice since he may take it the wrong way.

Next the biatch, I guarantee she is not being 100% honest here.

As for the guy taking the prize home stop this cr** right now no puzzy is ever the prize! period.

 

[Blusher]

She has had sex with the guy, why does she still want him around and why does the other guy want her to be around?
What is going on here, good friend’s almost emotional relationship stuff.

I agree! That's total BS!

The way I see it a decent, respectful girl will not hang out with someone she slept with, period. If she does it, she does it knowing that it makes you nervous. A good girl doesn't make it tough for you.

 

[BobFuest]

the resolution

well he talked to her and she said she didnt really care about the guy, she more felt like she was being nice to him (i.e. lets just be friends) and really doesnt have any reason to hangout with him. Even better, she said that she probably never would cause she knows it would make him feel funny. So problem averted. I dont know if she is lying or not (we will never know) but she is a pretty honest chick so.. As long as he seems ok about it. I told him he could next her but it really wasnt that big of an issue for him. They been together almost 1/1/2 years and are thinking about moving in together. Not my idea of a good thing but whatever. anyways, thanks for the advice. I liked self mastery's advice the best about being honest and upfront. I think you should call women on ANYTHING that seems strange.

 

[Le Parisien]

i would also like to clarify that in my opinion women keep male friends that they slept with for one reason only, in case of a sex emergency. thats just IMO tho.

I couldn't agree more...:yes:

 

[niceguydying]

That whole situation seems odd to me. The female could say whatever she wants, but I betcha anything she will see her old ex. I really do not think I could put up with and I don't think I should even if I could. Just another flakey game that a women plays. Flip the script on old girl and she wouldn't tolerate that shyt either.

 

[penkitten]

would you let?
would you allow?

you cant let or not let , allow or not allow.
all you can do is put your foot down and say "if you want to be with me you wouldnt disrespect me and hang out with other guys when i am not around and im not going to be walked all over."

the choice really isnt yours in the end.

 

[KinkyMan]

Good post penkitten.

However, the guys are right also ...

I think it is crucial to always know precisely what behavior you will accept, so you can make this perfectly clear the First time the girl does not abide by these conditions.

Otherwise, you are trying to change her to fit your changing needs.

This way, there's no complication, no worries or insecurities.

Unless that's what you want .....