Do you keep women in orbit while in a relationship?

[Datinglife26]

Simple question, when you're in a LTR do you at least talk to other women?

As we know even the best relationships can go south seemingly out of nowhere.

Or do you equate having orbiters as a female trait for validation?

 

[optinimus]

It's almost a requirement to talk to other women in order to remain attractive to her. When she senses you have no other options, her attraction will drop. The girls who have been the most attracted to me by far, knew that I was seeing other women or at least had a suspicion about it

 

[Datinglife26]

It's almost a requirement to talk to other women in order to remain attractive to her. When she senses you have no other options, her attraction will drop. The girls who have been the most attracted to me by far, knew that I was seeing other women or at least had a suspicion about it

They knew you were seeing other women while you were exclusive LTR or just dating?

 

[Seacoast Living]

I like to add most women I've dated or had sex with as Facebook friends, even though I didn't see a LTR with them. I will like their posts and they will usually like(love) my infrequent posts. It's nice to always have a quiver full if the current thing doesn't work out.

 

[MatureDJ]

They're not called orbiters - they're called plates.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi DatingLife,
Nothing lasts forever,always have an option B.

 

[Datinglife26]

They're not called orbiters - they're called plates.

I thought plates were women you sleep with

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Yes.

 

[Datinglife26]

Yes.

Give more context. What do you talk to them about, are you flirty, do you let them know your relationship status etc.

This is what im wondering

 

[Glassguy]

Yes. Most of the time.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Give more context. What do you talk to them about, are you flirty, do you let them know your relationship status etc.

This is what im wondering

I don't seek 'orbiters or back ups', things just seem to happen.
I suppose it is as much the enjoyment or validation of being wanted that is nice.
These things seem spontaneous.
I talk about anything I'd talk to anyone about.
I'm flirty. I make it obvious I'm talking to them because I find them attractive.
I don't tell them I'm in a LTR, and I'm very good at prevaricating and deflecting. Though, eventually, they figure it out.
Also, a few of my ex-s are potential 'back ups' that I keep in touch with. One even told me: "There's nothing wrong with being a side piece." I keep up with them, because I like them. In fact, two of them I would trust my life to.

 

[Chow Mein]

What I’ve learned,
1) Women go after men that are taken, qualification process.
- Once a man decides to be monogamous, he shall abide by it. You had your chance to have fun. Time to put on the big boy pants.

2) Hinting monogamy drives women crazy, even if it is not with said woman.
- A card that should be situationally played.

3) Women need competition.
- Easy to get, easy to leave

 

[Datinglife26]

I don't seek 'orbiters or back ups', things just seem to happen.
I suppose it is as much the enjoyment or validation of being wanted that is nice.
These things seem spontaneous.
I talk about anything I'd talk to anyone about.
I'm flirty. I make it obvious I'm talking to them because I find them attractive.
I don't tell them I'm in a LTR, and I'm very good at prevaricating and deflecting. Though, eventually, they figure it out.
Also, a few of my ex-s are potential 'back ups' that I keep in touch with. One even told me: "There's nothing wrong with being a side piece." I keep up with them, because I like them. In fact, two of them I would trust my life to.

I'm not even talking about seeking them

Say a girl you dated previously reaches out over linkin. Messages you asking how you are. But you're in a LTR (Yes this is my current situation lol)

I've replied politely but didnt really try to push the convo, which is making her carry the conversation now. Asking if im still living in the city and how life is etc. (Haven't replied

I'm not a cheater, I won't do that. But this did get me thinking.


Edit, and before people start getting holier than thou and preachy, im asking questions to find the answers. I just know how some people can get in these threads lol

 

[Datinglife26]

What I’ve learned,
1) Women go after men that are taken, qualification process.
- Once a man decides to be monogamous, he shall abide by it. You had your chance to have fun. Time to put on the big boy pants.

2) Hinting monogamy drives women crazy, even if it is not with said woman.
- A card that should be situationally played.

3) Women need competition.
- Easy to get, easy to leave

Yep, im not a cheater so not asking for validation of that. I've a big boy pants on firmly haha

I just need to discuss when women put themselves into your orbit, how you handle that. Like they reach out to you while you're in a LTR

 

[Vanderdonck]

Yes always. Another way to put it, there are always women who find me interesting and attractive. Doesn't mean I'm out gallivanting. Just my natural state of being, the sun attracts planets.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I'm not even talking about seeking them

Say a girl you dated previously reaches out over linkin. Messages you asking how you are. But you're in a LTR (Yes this is my current situation lol)

I've replied politely but didnt really try to push the convo, which is making her carry the conversation now. Asking if im still living in the city and how life is etc. (Haven't replied

I'm not a cheater, I won't do that. But this did get me thinking.


Edit, and before people start getting holier than thou and preachy, im asking questions to find the answers. I just know how some people can get in these threads lol

IME, I just decide whether I want to speak with her or not.

Some girls from my past are not worth a conversation. Others are very cool. So if I'm going to enjoy it, then we can catch up.

Then there are varying levels of it. Some I might be guarded and speak plainly with, not revealing much. Others I'm more friendly with. Etc.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Hot take! This is a blue pilled scarcity mindset that made sense as a beginner but should have been dropped as you progressed in life. I can understand a guy in a LTR caving to a softball pitch from some hot new girl in a random scenario that can easily be hidden under the table, but I cannot respect a man that cheats on his partner with his exes or builds up multiple LTRs going on at the same time because he is in a scarcity mindset. This is what Blue Pill Beta Simps do, not Sigma's or Alpha males. I have progressed past the point to where I don't need orbiters or plates to maintain attraction with women and I also value that breakup period of limited female clarity. When you breakup with a woman, you get that raw masculine revenge energy to get shvt done and improve yourself at work, gym, and etc. When you consistently monkey branch, you rob yourself of those opportunities and make yourself more dependent on female attention aka scarcity mindset.

 

[Divorced w 3]

It’s not hard to do nor should it really be a stated objective of yours, per se…think of it this way … you go to the office, a woman that you’ve always been flirty with, it’s the summer and now you have an easy opener to grab drinks *with a small group* - you do that and keep the tension going … a group of friends from some sort of group you participate in, you go out together and whomever girl from that circle is there… I would be super careful to not be overly communicative with women that are not socially connected so that you can always maintain plausible deniability… if you’re going to continue to keep up with women that have no connection points to your circles it has to be on socials or the very touch and go type text that you must delete from your phone, and mute, and make sure is password protected

also, see above as to why socials suck, women and men are both playing this game

most importantly - the reason you don’t make this a goal is because, at least for me, I attract period and I can fill that pipeline back up in a week - don’t ever walk around thinking you need options - you don’t- you’re abundant

 

[Manure Spherian]

Like they reach out to you while you're in a LTR

What would be the point in responding if you don’t “cheat”?

There’s no “cheating” if not married or there are no kids involved, as I see it.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Hot take! This is a blue pilled scarcity mindset that made sense as a beginner but should have been dropped as you progressed in life. I can understand a guy in a LTR caving to a softball pitch from some hot new girl in a random scenario that can easily be hidden under the table, but I cannot respect a man that cheats on his partner with his exes or builds up multiple LTRs going on at the same time because he is in a scarcity mindset. This is what Blue Pill Beta Simps do, not Sigma's or Alpha males. I have progressed past the point to where I don't need orbiters or plates to maintain attraction with women and I also value that breakup period of limited female clarity. When you breakup with a woman, you get that raw masculine revenge energy to get shvt done and improve yourself at work, gym, and etc. When you consistently monkey branch, you rob yourself of those opportunities and make yourself more dependent on female attention aka scarcity mindset.

There’s no cheating in bf-gf situations. Lol.