“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Do you judge your looks by pictures or the mirror?

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I'm sure you guys have noticed how different you look in pictures and how you view yourself in a mirror.

What do you use to base your appearance on, and do you think you look better in the mirror or in pictures?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I haven't really noticed. I'm fvcking handsome regardless ;)

Interesting topic.
 

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I always think i look good in the mirror, but i see some pictured of myself and cringe! I'd say the pictures were more accurate, its how other people would see you, the lighting is always pretty good on my mirror also, and is always the same angle.

Video your self, that would be more realistic
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Interesting topic.

I consider myself unphotogenic, I usually look a little "weird" on photos, unless it's a "candid" one, you know when people are not telling you that they are taking a picture of you. If I'm asked to smile or pose for pictures, 90% of the time, I won't look good.

Anyway girls are attracted to me, and I look good in the mirror, so it's alright...:whistle:
 

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Mirror, and what others say.
 

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I'd say what I said earlier in another thread, to all those who said that they are "un-photogenic" that it's not that you aren't photogenic, it's just that you're ugly. But I wont, because I fear repercusions with the moderators because of my comments. :)

Oh, I look good on both, I know how to ...exhude?... my good features. Whatever that means ha. Where do I judge myself? Well, not on any one in particular, I've seen videos of myself.. and well, you can't hide your ugliness from "working your stuff"... I know I'm supposed to be ugly as a man anyways, so . . .

btw, If any of you want to see a sexy mofo, send me a pm, and I'll post my pic ;-)

edit- Oh no!! It's another "looks thread!" Bytches are the ones who spend HOURS getting pretty, they are BORN with CHEMICALS that make them look hot, MEN ARE NOT!
 
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SamePendo said:
I'd say what I said earlier in another thread, to all those who said that they are "un-photogenic" that it's not that you aren't photogenic, it's just that you're ugly. But I wont, because I fear repercusions with the moderators because of my comments. :)
Sorry, but that's bullsh1t. People look different in photographs because it's a flat 2D image of a complex 3D object -- your head -- which distorts your features, for some people more than others. Sometimes it makes people look worse, sometimes it makes people look better, and some people just aren't affected by it. Ever notice how some girls look hotter in their photos than they do in real life? It works both ways. I myself for some reason don't look as good in photos as in real life, and I though it was just my imagination until my friend saw some pictures of me on a trip I took and said it was weird because a lot of them didn't even really look like me.
Also, keep in mind that some people just don't make photogenic faces while having their picture taken.

The image you see of yourself in the mirror is a much more faithful representation of how you look than photographs. That's how you look to everyone else, because it's the moving, 3-dimensional image everyone else sees, unlike a flat, still photograph. Thank god I look better in the mirror. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Camera flashes make me look ghost white when I'm really not. The camera I have can't take pictures well in natural lighting. They end up turning out darker and more blurred than they are in reality. Also, photos can make a person look radically better or worse just depending on which angle you tilt your head. Depending on which photo I post on hotornot, I've gotten everything from a 5.5 to a 9.5 . They really aren't an accurate representation. The mirror (in a well lit room) is much more reliable IMO, and also comments from people, (eg, you're handsome, etc).
 

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Mirrors in my house suck, that's why I had a bad self image. On the other hand mirror in my aunt's house is perfect. I look cool in any mirror when I'm drunk.


By the way, I agree with nighthawk, you gotta be filmed while not watching. But then again, you may still end up looking like ass. Security cameras for example, all depends on camera quality, the angle, and the lighting, and what you doing.
 

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I've had pictures of me when I was not looking and they actually look better than when i'm prepared and pose for a picture... I must just suck at posing.. haha
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mirrors are closest to how people see you in real life, so I go by them. You have to remember, how you are percieved is more than just the physical aspects of your face. Its also about how your muscles move. Do your eyes open all the way or are they more relaxed? Do you move your eyebrows while you talk? Do you smile wide or just a little bit? These are things that you can't see in a picture.
 

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after my weeks of research on this topic. my answer its the mirror. thats the real view . use two side mirrors to see the side of your face and your back. pictures are 2d images and you might look good at some shots and ugly at the nxt. so if you look ugly in the mirror you are ugly period.hope that answers the question.
 

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I know some girls who look weird in photos but smoking hot in person, so I'd have to say Pendo's point is moot.
 

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I know some girls who look FAR better in real life than photos. They are smoking hot, but in photos, look VERY ordinary!

I know others who are some of the highest paid models in the country who look ok in person, but incredible in photos.

So there can be a BIG difference between photos and real life.

Mirrors depend on the lighting, shape of the mirror etc.

As for myself, some photos look shocking of me, some look really really good. Same as mirrors. Just depends the lighting, angle, pose I am striking, etc.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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