"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do you have a sister?

Do you have any sisters?


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ka_mate

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Simple question, do you have any sisters?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ka_mate

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Simple question, do you have any sisters?

Half sister = Only one parent in common
 

Atom Smasher

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I have three sisters and no brothers. Combine that with a domineering unstable mother and a largely absentee father and you can get an idea of why I'm here. Happy to say thought that mom has simmered down over the years and now I'm her "good boy", LOL.
 

bigneil

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Good question as I always wondered if having a sister would help me understand women better. I doubt it. Never understood my female cousins.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Greasy Pig

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My sister is great to discuss women with.
She pulls no punches and lets me have it when I need it.

She doesn't agree with my pump-n-dump lifestyle and usually takes the girls' side when I ask for advice but she's usually spot on.
She's a champ.
 

PDubb75

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Greasy Pig said:
My sister is great to discuss women with.
She pulls no punches and lets me have it when I need it.

She doesn't agree with my pump-n-dump lifestyle and usually takes the girls' side when I ask for advice but she's usually spot on.
She's a champ.
Mine is the exact same way. She even finds girls for me. Kinda helpful haha

I feel like having my sister and her friends around all of the time growing up made me less of a "DJ", but it helped me in other aspects. I ended up with too much of a romantic and white knight mentality, but it made me comfortable around attractive women (damn she has some hot friends..). I guess I would rather it be that way than the opposite though.
 

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Birth order makes a difference. First borns tend to be conservative, later borns tend to be progressively more liberal, because first borns have the closet relationship with their parents, whereas later borns are more distant and may be raised by their siblings. My older sister is a condescending bïtch, and my younger sister is cool.
 

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I have one...


to add to the question:


How would you feel if a guy was doing (what you do to girls) to your sister?


When in doubt, I always ask myself that question.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ka_mate

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PDubb75 said:
Is there a meaning behind asking this?
Not particularly, just curious as to whether the guys on here had contact with girls in their home environment growing up.

I was wondering whether there would be a trend of

1. Lots of guys not having sisters and hence they didn't have much contact with women their age at home growing up so came to this site for guidance

or whether there is a combination of both
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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