"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do you guys text after 1st date to nix her auto-rejection?

TheCWord

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A site I read and trust is girlschase.com. A lot of the stuff on there works for me.

But I was just reading an article on there, and it mentions a few times the idea of texting within 24hrs of the first date so that she doesn't go into auto-rejection mode.

Again, that's been a good site for me and I find a lot of what's on there lines up with what we talk about on SoSuave... but this texting after the first date thing seems like it would take the hamster off the wheel immediately. No mystery. No her wondering if she'll ever hear from me again. She can immediately chill.

I myself am on day 3 since a first date and I wasn't planning on texting her until mid-week to setup plans for the weekend, unless she initiates first.

Maybe I just don't know enough about auto-rejection as a concept, so feel free to fill me in. Makes me wonder how many plates I may have lost to auto-rejection because I didn't understand it. Hmmmm.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheException

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Maybe I just don't know enough about auto-rejection as a concept

I dont believe in it^

I dont text after a date. To me, its not necessary....like I just said goodbye to you and said I had a good time so why would I text it to you the next day? Even if you think your being "slick" and text her something funny...it still comes off as needy and reinforces the idea that your thinking about her ever since the date.

"This is to head off any chance that she goes into auto-rejection simply by being a pessimistic or defensive person if she doesn't hear from you in a few days and thinks that you're rejecting her" - quoted from article

This^ just doesnt happen.

If a woman really really likes you, shes going to do 1 of 2 things

1.) Text YOU post date

2.) Wondering and HOPING you like her and will text her soon.

Bonus 3.) And would you want to date a pessimistic or defensive person in the 1st place?

Shes not going to sit there and get bummed out if you dont immediately text her. Shes going to be thinking about you...hoping and praying. They are nervous feelings...but positive nervous feelings. Think of it this way....you bang a hot a$$ chick and she doesnt text you for a couple of days, and then does. Do you feel excited or butthurt and decide to reject her? We are always yearning for things we dont have, so giving her a little time to miss you is NEVER a bad thing(if shes attracted).

I myself am on day 3 since a first date and I wasn't planning on texting her until mid-week to setup plans for the weekend, unless she initiates first.
Textbook^

Thats what I do. Ill shoot a text about something we laughed about on the date or whatever then get right into making definite plans. If she would have texted you first...its the same thing. Exchange a couple texts, then make plans.
 

TheCWord

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Was hoping you'd weigh in, Ex.

"You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to TheException again."
 
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