do you guys speak in higher pitches at times?

[garruk]

so today i was just catching up with a friend of mine and we're eating at a sushi bar.

some cuties sit next to us and we start a good conversatiopn, nothing comes out of it, but after we leave my friend tells me that sometimes when i ask questions i speak in a higher pitch. sorta like a little boy lol.

does this happen to you guys? ive acutally heard of this problem before but i just never knew i had it.

how can i learn some voice control? lol

 

[Captain]

The first step to fixing a problem is to acknowledge it. Now that you know you are doing it, you can consciously remind yourself NOT to do it when you speak.

Basically what you are doing is called "seeking rapport" which is generally what people of lesser value do when they talk to higher value people, or when asking questions.

Best to always keep your voice between neutral rapport (pitch doesn't curl upwards or downwards) and breaking rapport (more aggressive, imagine it curling downwards.)

"RSD Flawless Natural" really opened my eyes to this. I don't usually recommend specific "pickup products", but I reckon this one is pretty good (easy to find a free copy too ).

 

[Die Hard]

I had this tendency too, when talking to girls. You just need to remind yourself that you are a man and women like men, so therefor you have to act like a man. Having a dark voice is a very masculine trait and it influences the way girls perceive you quite much.

Other than just reminding yourself to do it and then actually doing it, there's not much advice I can give you. It's like someone asking: "I noticed that I often walk with my upper body bent forward, I wanna learn to walk with my back straight and my shoulders pointed backwards..." You just have to remind yourself to do it, and practice doing it until it becomes a habit.

The only thing that I can think of is this: Try to talk more slowly. The faster you talk the bigger the chance that your voice's pitch becomes higher. So talk more slowly and controlled, which makes you appear more in control anyway and that's a good thing in itself.

 

[Scars]

My girlfriend does this when she is trying to be "cute" with me. It's rather annoying, and it definitely is a DLV. Just try and stay as neutral as possible. You probably do this because you are either excited or seeking validation. Just keep reminding yourself that you are in control. Not only of your voice, but your attitude. THEY are the ones that should be validating themselves to YOU. THEY should be the ones that get excited when YOU show them attention. You can fake it until you make it. Or you can make the transformation now and improve on your inner game. It all starts with a mindset. But you have to BELIEVE. Believe you ARE that person. BE that person.

 

[iliketennis]

great topic

 

[Lexington]

Try to make it a habit of sounding your voice from your abdomen. The more "throaty" you are, the higher pitch your voice will be. Try to imagine that your voice originates in your diaphragm and not in your vocal folds.

When we get excited we tend to make much shallower respirations and our pitch elevates. To improve the resonance of your voice, you should consciously try to take deep, long breaths.

 

[BigJimbo]

I have a REALLY deep voice. Just thought you would like to know.

 

[garruk]

im loving all your responses guys. im gonna practice this for sure

 

[Ice882]

rofl

 

[kingsam]

The first step to fixing a problem is to acknowledge it. Now that you know you are doing it, you can consciously remind yourself NOT to do it when you speak.

Basically what you are doing is called "seeking rapport" which is generally what people of lesser value do when they talk to higher value people, or when asking questions.

Best to always keep your voice between neutral rapport (pitch doesn't curl upwards or downwards) and breaking rapport (more aggressive, imagine it curling downwards.)

"RSD Flawless Natural" really opened my eyes to this. I don't usually recommend specific "pickup products", but I reckon this one is pretty good (easy to find a free copy too ).

flawless natural is a brilliant DD
tonality by Tim from flawless natural
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VDslvC4_5w

RSD Brad on tonality
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VsbHpL5OlLE

tonality is the closest tihgn to a "magic pill"
by improving your personlity, you are;
- more authorative
- people feel you know what you are talking about
- more dominant
- more assertive
- more alpha/ more DJ
...conciously try and adress this...you get immediate results...!

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Other than just reminding yourself to do it and then actually doing it, there's not much advice I can give you. It's like someone asking: "I noticed that I often walk with my upper body bent forward, I wanna learn to walk with my back straight and my shoulders pointed backwards..." You just have to remind yourself to do it, and practice doing it until it becomes a habit.

and going to the gym will fix this,

 

[garruk]

flawless natural is a brilliant DD
tonality by Tim from flawless natural
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VDslvC4_5w

RSD Brad on tonality
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VsbHpL5OlLE

tonality is the closest tihgn to a "magic pill"
by improving your personlity, you are;
- more authorative
- people feel you know what you are talking about
- more dominant
- more assertive
- more alpha/ more DJ
...conciously try and adress this...you get immediate results...!

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and going to the gym will fix this,

whoa this tonality stuff is pretty crazy. ive never heard of it before this but whoa! lol.

defienately requries alot of practice though. and constant self reminders.

 

[garruk]

I had this tendency too, when talking to girls. You just need to remind yourself that you are a man and women like men, so therefor you have to act like a man. Having a dark voice is a very masculine trait and it influences the way girls perceive you quite much.

Other than just reminding yourself to do it and then actually doing it, there's not much advice I can give you. It's like someone asking: "I noticed that I often walk with my upper body bent forward, I wanna learn to walk with my back straight and my shoulders pointed backwards..." You just have to remind yourself to do it, and practice doing it until it becomes a habit.

The only thing that I can think of is this: Try to talk more slowly. The faster you talk the bigger the chance that your voice's pitch becomes higher. So talk more slowly and controlled, which makes you appear more in control anyway and that's a good thing in itself.

this was good advice too, gonna try to talk slower. hope i dont sounded retarded though lol jk

 

[Radharc]

I´ve been paying more attention to my voice tonality lately, one thing I noticed (like some ppl mentioned) is that the faster I speak the higher the pitch goes, I can only mantain a low pitch if I talk slowly, and that is not a bad thing in itself, but it kind of worries me that if I need to talk faster in some situation I will go to higher pitches, not sure how that would look.

Another problem that I´m facing is that sometimes I need to talk louder than I would need to in a higher pitch, lol, for ppl to understand me.

I´m still learning my ropes around this, but I really feel that this will pay off. Basically I´m trying to stick with my lower pitch in all situations, it also has some side benefits on forcing you to talk slower, makes you look more assertive. Also singing along ppl like Leonard Cohen, as an exercise, seems to help you in modulating a lower pitch so you wont become monocordic.

Also been looking at some voice exercise books on amazon but it all looks boring as hell.