I NEVER kiss a girl on the first or even 2nd or 3rd date - read POOK's comments below, depending on if you APPEAR to be 'Player-like' exterior or 'Niceguy-like' exterior. I kiss the woman WHEN I FEEL I WANT TO - she has to wait and PROVE to me that she's worth my emotional and physical investment.
This makes the woman sexually frustrated over time and when I am READY she will have no more b!tch shield left. But remember, I am into LTR women - this DOES NOT work for One Night Stand or short-term flings. Because I have a 'Player-like' exterior and only go after quality women, not escalating physically right away gives her time to GET RID of her perception that I may BE A PLAYER (which I am not - a nice guy inside).
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ANTI-DUMP'S MACHINE Part VIII - Become a Mystery!
Flirting and Creating Interest by POOK
On the Internet, some males advocate a MALE FLIRTING. However, they do not call it flirting. They call it ‘creating interest’. They even think they are CONTROLLING the girl by doing this.
Girls also believe they don’t exactly FLIRT. They just ‘create interest’ and many of them think they CONTROL the guy. We know they’re wrong. So why is there so much hostility that guys running around trying to ‘create’ interest might be flawed too? (Because it shatters their sense of CONTROL). With seduction, to become a physical dildo to her you must become her emotional dildo. After all, she still has no true interest in you. This is the Ross Jefferies way.
Listen to what Anti-Dump says on ‘flirting’ or ‘creating interest’.
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Quote by Anti-Dump:
Flirting was invented by women as an attention-seeking device. Society tells a woman that it is improper to ask a man out. So women flirt to get your attention to let you know, non verbally, of their ROMANTIC interest in you.
It is not necessary for a man to flirt. He doesn't have to 'telegraph' his romantic interest. That's because HE does the asking out. Men are very confused in this area.
Flirting is for women.
You 'telegraph' your romantic interest in a woman by asking for her HOME phone number. That is the male 'flirting' so to speak.
Anti-Dump was one that didn’t believe in ‘kino’. There is a post by me in the hall of fame about kino. I NEVER do kino at first now.
Kino is PERFECT for the Nice Guy because it turns him into a sexual being. It is bad for Pook NOW because women already see Pook as a sexual being. By kinoing them now, I just display way too much interest (girls will take it almost as desperation. “This sexy as sin guy HAD to touch me. I’ve GOT him.”
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When you ask for the number she will automatically know you are interested in her romantically.
If you don't ask, you are in danger of falling in the friend zone. That's because you didn't 'flirt' by asking for the number.
You didn't let her know your true feelings: To ask her out.
So just have a simple, lively, non flirting conversation and then ask the girl for the number as soon as possible.
The same applies as far as dates go. Each call for a date 'telegraphs' to her that you are very interested. Or else why did you ask her out? Because you are very interested.
You just don't put it into words.
At the end of each date I usually say something like "I had a great time jet-skiing". I look directly into her eyes. She knows you are talking about her. You give indirect indicators of you liking her. You kiss her passionately, at times you hold her passionately. Never TELL her how you feel IN WORDS during the first two months. Try waiting until the third month. That would be much, much better.
You NEVER try to create romantic interest. Big mistake. SHE HAS TO BE ALREADY INTERESTED.
You don't have to impress her. She should already be impressed by you. Or else why did she accept the date? Not to kill a boring night I hope.
You don't create interest. It has to be there or you drop her and start again.
When a man flirts it works against him. He is 'telegraphing' too much romantic interest. Much too much.
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At workplaces and classes, there are MANY guys that flirt around. WHY? Because it is risk-free. They do not get shot down and EVERY WOMAN loves having a guy ‘flirt’ with her. It gives her attention.
When I am interested in a girl, I ASK THEM OUT. This creates a response in the girl that you’ll never get by flirting with her (if you flirt hard enough, she thinks you are going to ask her out. When you don’t, WATCH OUT. She will despise you).
Most guys here are making it harder than it actually is. You do not have to become some mythical ‘alpha male’. You don’t need to play a ‘Psychological Chess’ with them. You don’t have to have society in awe of you. You just have to simply go ask them out. Instead of facing this simple fact, we spit out and regurgitate ‘alpha male’ manifestos, treatises on women and society, and so on.
The challenge is not You VERSUS the Woman. It is not You VERSUS the WORLD. It is always You VERSUS You. The only roadblock to make your dreams become reality is within you.
Correct yourself and the world gets corrected.
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POOK
"As you think, you shall become!"
