"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you guys ever feel totally out of practice?

Mr Wright

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Well i've been seeing this girl, we're not exclusive but i actually like her so i just havent been hitting on other girls. I'd say its been about 2 months since i've actually really been in that mood to try it...until this weekend

Basically ive got freshers week next month and i just feel so out of practice. I was at a house party this weekend and although i got off with 3 girls, i couldnt close anything. I just felt so sluggish, like my brain wasnt working properly.

So how are things going for you guys?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thundernuts

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Not to great. Basically im getting all the signals but i am just disinterested in doing the same song and dance with women. Tired of talking to all these generic "American Eagle" girls.

You know i want a bit more than just sex, arent there any women who can have conversations???
 

Scars

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Yesterday I had to go to traffic school to take car of a recent speeding ticket. I didn't really dress up or anything (just expecting a bunch of old people, or idiots, not really sure what to expect actually) and also went into the class all hung over. Sure enough, there is a hott girl in the class and guess where she decides to sit? Yes, right next to me. She could had picked any other seat but she picked to sit right next to me. Although I had a little small talk with her, I didn't feel as comfortable or confident (it could had been that I didn't dress myself well, or did my hair that day) and totally missed the opportunity to get her number. I'm kicking myself for it now, but yes, I know how you feel.

Although, other than that, I've been doing pretty good. It just sucks when these types of things hit you by surprise. I guess I should try and look my best from now on anytime I leave the house, or just hit on girls whether I feel like a dirt bag or not. Haha.

-Scars
 

Serg897

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Scars said:
Yesterday I had to go to traffic school to take car of a recent speeding ticket. I didn't really dress up or anything (just expecting a bunch of old people, or idiots, not really sure what to expect actually) and also went into the class all hung over. Sure enough, there is a hott girl in the class and guess where she decides to sit? Yes, right next to me. She could had picked any other seat but she picked to sit right next to me. Although I had a little small talk with her, I didn't feel as comfortable or confident (it could had been that I didn't dress myself well, or did my hair that day) and totally missed the opportunity to get her number. I'm kicking myself for it now, but yes, I know how you feel.

Although, other than that, I've been doing pretty good. It just sucks when these types of things hit you by surprise. I guess I should try and look my best from now on anytime I leave the house, or just hit on girls whether I feel like a dirt bag or not. Haha.

-Scars
I've had experiences like this before. Golden opportunities to get numbers missed because they happen so fast and catch you off guard. I guess experience it the best teacher - always be aware of your surroundings and potential opportunities.
 

Buddha_Mind

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Scars said:
Yesterday I had to go to traffic school to take car of a recent speeding ticket. I didn't really dress up or anything (just expecting a bunch of old people, or idiots, not really sure what to expect actually) and also went into the class all hung over. Sure enough, there is a hott girl in the class and guess where she decides to sit? Yes, right next to me. She could had picked any other seat but she picked to sit right next to me. Although I had a little small talk with her, I didn't feel as comfortable or confident (it could had been that I didn't dress myself well, or did my hair that day) and totally missed the opportunity to get her number. I'm kicking myself for it now, but yes, I know how you feel.

Although, other than that, I've been doing pretty good. It just sucks when these types of things hit you by surprise. I guess I should try and look my best from now on anytime I leave the house, or just hit on girls whether I feel like a dirt bag or not. Haha.

-Scars
Don't beat yourself up about it man. And in regards to your dress -- don't underestimate yourself or overtly discredit yourself because of some drab attire.

It's ironic that some hottie will be interested in you when you're hung-over @ss has crawled out of bed vs. struggling at some social scene where you've taken the time to fine-tune your appearance, etc...in fact, if she's into you when you're looking like sh!t...this is a good sign :) Because when you do dress up you'll blow her away :)

Note to all -- next time some girl is giving you IOIs and you are lacking confidence due to neglect of clothing/hygiene for that day: Ignore it, assume the attraction and see if you can number close! You'll be even more attractive the next time she sees you!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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