Mr Spitfire
Don Juan
I have been reading this site for well over a year. I have been able to improve myself drastically. I know which tendencies to avoid when dealing with a woman and which tendencies to boost but it was not until I really examined the basic psychology of friendship and connection that I understood what was missing from this site.
This site teaches men to be unemotional about women. That is the strategy. Don't let them effect you beyond being horny. It even goes so far as to encourage that you downplay successes so that your ego is not shattered when you hit a failure. I agree that it is highly important to not let them impact you. It is important to not need. But there is a lot more about connecting to women than neg hits, kino, IOI, making them laugh and being ****y.
I was out with my bros one night in the LA area at a major motor cycle rally. There were about 200 guys in the restaraunt alone, about 2000 outside. We had a really hot waitress serving our table. HOT. She was also nice but cautious. Homeboy accross from me tries doing mr sexy eyes at her like all black guys do and she returned it, slightly with a fake sexy smile. I said to myself. She just lied. She isn't sexually attracted to him.
No sooner do I say that to myself that he says looking at me "She likes me," in a ****y way. So now Im rolling my eyes to myself thinking of a good line.
She comes back and I act ultra nice. Now she is relaxing. She thinks she is in control of us. She comes back again and after talking to her for a few seconds along with the rest of the table I tell her in the most honest genuine and plain way , "I love you." The same way every guy that ever broke her heart said it. She looked like I punched her in the face. She wasn't smiling anymore. She even thought that I expected her to believe me. She challenged me demanding that I explain how I could possibly love her.
"You don't know anything about me!"
In the same exact voice with the same puppy dog eyes "Im psychic." -- Now she's shaken. I wish I had a camera it was priceless.
Homeboy has hated me since then and he was really nice to me before that.
The answer I found later was that you have to exchange love. I made a cruel exchange and hurt a girl, slightly. What about a nice exchange? I think of it like tennis. You guys call it AFC to do something nice. AFCs do nice things because they want something. They feel that if they do xyz they can take what they want or force a girl to like them. I give freely and don't care about what I give and if it goes abused oh well I gave it freely and when I stop giving I get chased. But I get back ALOT without any abuse too!
That is what kino is really about. You are exchanging love. Overdoing kino though turns into AFC behavior and lech behavior. Your love must be returned and thats all there is to it. You act, she reacts. You act again she reacts again. You call and leave a message she returns your message you make a date, she keeps her word to show. Back and forth.
Start nice. No reaction. Dont act distant and uninterested BE distant and uninterested. Reaction. She gives. You take. You give back......
I was watching blind date and there was this pathetic angry dude on who was hurt by women his whole life so he checked sosuave apparently and discovered that he needed to just act like a total ******* to get a woman to like him. Wow did that go over well.
Its simple. You can be nice and you can be distant and you can be challenging and you can be passionate and you can be unavailable and you can be confident and you can be horny and you can be a jerk every now and then.
Have you seen "The Mexican." Wow that nobleman's son was a real diickhead. Its no wonder that girl was so in love him.
I think you guys have really forgotten that love is an exchange and it comes in doses and there are ways to make it wanted without being AFC.
This site teaches men to be unemotional about women. That is the strategy. Don't let them effect you beyond being horny. It even goes so far as to encourage that you downplay successes so that your ego is not shattered when you hit a failure. I agree that it is highly important to not let them impact you. It is important to not need. But there is a lot more about connecting to women than neg hits, kino, IOI, making them laugh and being ****y.
I was out with my bros one night in the LA area at a major motor cycle rally. There were about 200 guys in the restaraunt alone, about 2000 outside. We had a really hot waitress serving our table. HOT. She was also nice but cautious. Homeboy accross from me tries doing mr sexy eyes at her like all black guys do and she returned it, slightly with a fake sexy smile. I said to myself. She just lied. She isn't sexually attracted to him.
No sooner do I say that to myself that he says looking at me "She likes me," in a ****y way. So now Im rolling my eyes to myself thinking of a good line.
She comes back and I act ultra nice. Now she is relaxing. She thinks she is in control of us. She comes back again and after talking to her for a few seconds along with the rest of the table I tell her in the most honest genuine and plain way , "I love you." The same way every guy that ever broke her heart said it. She looked like I punched her in the face. She wasn't smiling anymore. She even thought that I expected her to believe me. She challenged me demanding that I explain how I could possibly love her.
"You don't know anything about me!"
In the same exact voice with the same puppy dog eyes "Im psychic." -- Now she's shaken. I wish I had a camera it was priceless.
Homeboy has hated me since then and he was really nice to me before that.
The answer I found later was that you have to exchange love. I made a cruel exchange and hurt a girl, slightly. What about a nice exchange? I think of it like tennis. You guys call it AFC to do something nice. AFCs do nice things because they want something. They feel that if they do xyz they can take what they want or force a girl to like them. I give freely and don't care about what I give and if it goes abused oh well I gave it freely and when I stop giving I get chased. But I get back ALOT without any abuse too!
That is what kino is really about. You are exchanging love. Overdoing kino though turns into AFC behavior and lech behavior. Your love must be returned and thats all there is to it. You act, she reacts. You act again she reacts again. You call and leave a message she returns your message you make a date, she keeps her word to show. Back and forth.
Start nice. No reaction. Dont act distant and uninterested BE distant and uninterested. Reaction. She gives. You take. You give back......
I was watching blind date and there was this pathetic angry dude on who was hurt by women his whole life so he checked sosuave apparently and discovered that he needed to just act like a total ******* to get a woman to like him. Wow did that go over well.
Its simple. You can be nice and you can be distant and you can be challenging and you can be passionate and you can be unavailable and you can be confident and you can be horny and you can be a jerk every now and then.
Have you seen "The Mexican." Wow that nobleman's son was a real diickhead. Its no wonder that girl was so in love him.
I think you guys have really forgotten that love is an exchange and it comes in doses and there are ways to make it wanted without being AFC.