"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she was actually hadicap and she asked how i was doing so i answered her, i would feel bad if i didnt , but i couldnt get with her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yeah , that happens to me a lot , they just want to make sure this kind of guys will be interested in them , because women assume when you reply that mean in you are some how interested in them
in other words they just want some ego boost and self esteem boost
 

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whosthat said:
she was actually hadicap and she asked how i was doing so i answered her, i would feel bad if i didnt , but i couldnt get with her
no need to feel bad cause women dont feeel bad for u
 

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bradd80 said:
hell no.. why lead them on? By responding to them you're wasting not only your time but theirs as well.. by not responding to them you're actually doing them a big favor!
Well said. Same goes the other way around.

I just wished guys would understand that when a woman doesn't respond, it is for the same reasons stated. They don't want to talk to you, and feel that if they respond, they won't be able to get rid of you. There is plenty of evidence to support that being the case. So no, it is not always because she just wants attention and an ego boost, usually she doesn't find you attractive enough for her, for whatever reason she doesn't see just how money you are!, so she won't waste her time, and yours.

A lot of guys are delusional and tell themselves "Women don't respond to GREAT ME, because they are just there being AW's."

A good way to tell if they don't respond to you because you are not good enough for them, or because they are just AW's, and/or have too many options online, is by comparing them to the kind of chicks you get off line. If you don't usually pull hot chicks off line, then don't expect chicks out of your league to respond. If average girls, who would be honored for you to give them the time off line, ignore you online, either your profile sounds like the rest to the other guys', she's an AW, and/or she has much better options online than in person.
 

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I used to try and answer with small talk which means I was polite enough to respond, but generally they get the hint. Now I do not answer a lot of them. Takes up too much time and I figure if women do it, why should I not be able to. Has nothing to do with me being mean at all. I do not get a ton of emails like some or a lot of the ladies do, but I do get some. I wouldn't worry about it honestly...Not worry material.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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