Do you fear escalation? Read how to fix it

[Metaphysical]

I am aware many of you guys are afraid of escalation. It's pretty obvious this is a common issue on this board.

I can understand you feel anxiety when being with a woman and thinking she will freak out if you touch her sexually, but you guys need to think deeply about a few things.

First of all, why would she not enjoy your touch? I mean, people love being touched by each other. Our brain rewards us because we are one step closer to achieving our replication goal. Nothing compares to a woman's soothing touch for a man.

The same applies for women. There is nothing more that they would enjoy than a man caressing their skin, embracing them tight as he enters deepy through her gates of pleasure and shoots her into the realms of heavens.

In life we are born with only 2 fears. The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Everything else is a learnt fear. You become conditioned to be afraid of it. You have learnt through stupid movies that the guy is afraid of making a "move" on a date with a girl, hence the cliche of the arm around her neck move that you guys see in the movies growing up.

Think logically. Why would you be afraid of a tiny little 110lb girl who is 5ft4 tall? Average guy is 180lbs at 5'10. What is she going to do to you? Not one damn thing.

Now, let's explore the second part of this issue.

What I REALLY cannot understand is why some guys go on 3-4 dates with a girl before kissing her?

If a girl AGREES to go on a date with you, then she is attracted enough to you. There is no bloody reason in the world why you should not kiss her.

If she says "YES" to going out with you, THEN SHE ALREADY LIKES YOU. She wants to hook up with you and get naked and wild with you. All you have to do is make it happen. Step up and be a man, let your balls drop and give into your natural impulse of being a man.

 

[Tekniq]

Think logically. Why would you be afraid of a tiny little 110lb girl who is 5ft4 tall? Average guy is 180lbs at 5'10. What is she going to do to you? Not one damn thing.

Sounds like you are ready to commit rape.

 

[azrael]

Some girls go out with guys 'cuz they are bore.It's like a girl accepting your gifts , sometimes it means nothing.

 

[Dragon]

Metaphysical... good stuff. I needed it.

Tonight I was out with a girl and my goal was to F close her. This is our second date. We went out dancing and I was leading very well. I was being very aggressive and making her dance really close to me. If she would back of, I would say "don't be timid, let yourself go" and then I would grab her and we would grind. This was all going great and she was feeling it (in more ways then one cause I was rock solid as she grinded me).

The ONLY thing is when we sat down and I went for the kiss, I hesitated and said something really AFC. Darn it... she was giving me major IOI's (playing with her hair, scratching her wrists, eyes, etc) and she was dancing very sexually with me, but I was hesitant with the kiss and f'd it all up.

The only good news is that the cat is now out the bag and she knows I want to kiss her and take it to the next level. Thing is, she has a boyfriend so that fact was lingering in my mind and what caused me to hesitate. But hell, Casanova got rejected by women the same way but he kept on going for it and the women eventually gave in. So next time I go out with her, I am just going to make it seem that her charms are too strong and she's seducing ME, a move that Casanova would do.

Anyways... good post.

 

[Metaphysical]

You should not be going after women with boyfriends. It's a waste of your time and it's not worth the drama over a piece of ass, believe me. I've banged one girl whos boyfriend was this rich dude around my city and she was a fine little thing but it still wasn't worth it in the long run.

However, overlooking that, you should have just pulled her to you and kissed her.

Do not do any of that immature, insecure stupid stuff of asking her if she would like to kiss you or something. It will make it all awkward. Be a man and go for what you desire: HER. Grab her and pull her to you and taste her lips like you want to devour her.

 

[Dragon]

Good advice, Metaphysical. But I do disagree with you on going for girls with boyfriends. Fact is, some girls just don't care about their boyfriends. They are more like "boy friends" then boyfriends. I know this for a fact because a lot of my girl friends (not girlfriends) always tell me about seeing some guy and going on dates with this guy or that guy, and they have boyfriends. And since I'm only looking for casual relationships, I don't care whether she has a boyfriend or not. As a matter of fact, she can keep her boyfriend and just have me on the side. It's a lot easier on me.

 

[tsmith2334]

In life we are born with only 2 fears. The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Everything else is a learnt fear. You become conditioned to be afraid of it.

awesome point. +1

 

[Metaphysical]

Good advice, Metaphysical. But I do disagree with you on going for girls with boyfriends. Fact is, some girls just don't care about their boyfriends. They are more like "boy friends" then boyfriends. I know this for a fact because a lot of my girl friends (not girlfriends) always tell me about seeing some guy and going on dates with this guy or that guy, and they have boyfriends. And since I'm only looking for casual relationships, I don't care whether she has a boyfriend or not. As a matter of fact, she can keep her boyfriend and just have me on the side. It's a lot easier on me.

I would rather not waste my time with a girl who jumps from guy to guy. I want solid stable women who are going to be there for me in my stable.

I don't want to catch some STDS and end up dead or have my dick fall off.

 

[Dragon]

I understand, Metaphysical. We each have different goals. But for the record, there was only 1 women who I didn't use a condom with. I ALWAYS use a condom... no exceptions.