"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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do you ever have "off nights"?

TheGameMaster

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ive met some PUA's recently from my area and theyre all cool guys. I have met up with them 4 times now and mostly we have had some fun. But tonight went differently. I just literally couldnt get "in state". Im usually a vibrant, fun exciting guy when im in state, and i can feel this magnetism around me. But the past week, ive been missing my family (im away at uni) and i feel like ive gotten bored of the way life is panning out at the moment, even though i have an amazing life. Ive been doing loads of courseworks that has lead to less nights out. I seem to be getting fed up of the same aims all the time. GO to the gym to stay toned. Go to Krav Maga to learn to defend urself better. Go out and chat to girls to get better with them. This came out in me tonight. I literally just didnt care about chatting up girls. I wanted to approach them because itd be good for me, but at the same time i knew that whatever they said, i didnt care anyway. Im almost doing things sometimes that i dont want to do, but i know that theyll be good for me. Its like an awareness of whats best, that i dont actually want to fulfill.

SO im just wondering if im just having a strange week, an "off week".
or if my mentality is heading in the wrong direction. and im wondering what people's experiences of this are like?

Also, alot of the guys out tonight with me have INCREDIBLE game, and in a sense i felt quite inferior and that might have influenced why i cudnt get in the mood. I dunno

Cheers guys
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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r0cky

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Sometimes you forget your motivators. Its always good to write them down, the negative and positive ones, and go back to them on days when you dont feel in state.
 

rushing dude 123

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yes u can have an off night or off week. In some situations u can b top of the mountain, others u could b in some ditch somewhere. It dosn't really matter the fact is to know why ur there, what effected u to do that. if it was a strength try it again, if it was a weakness, work on it and try to overcome it. Like rocky said if so write it down and when u come to similar situation remind urself of why ur there, how u overcame the situation last time.

Now i think u may have put to high expectations for urself due to ur friends who had maybe a stronger game on the night. What u got to see it has is not competing with ur friends, but rather urself. Don't look at what they do, if ur looking to get few tips sure np, but other than don't start looking saying ok i gotta beat this guy. Look at urself what is the first step, maybe ur not approaching, ok u approach, maybe ur talking to fast, ok talk slower, not asking for the number, ok ask for the number.

Don't measure ur standards to ur friends, but urself look at how u was before, how u r now and think what u can do to improve ur game. If u fail np, even if they are watching ur not losing to them u were never in competition with them and the fact u approached failed or not is a lot better than what u were doing before, which was probablly nothing. Now think why u failed and work on that till u get it right.

Good luck my friend not that u will need it.
 
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