"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you ever get annoyed by it?????

blinkwatt

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Every since I have been lifting weights and becoming bigger and more muscular I notice that I'm almost not respected anymore,by some women, as a human but more as an object.

Its both what they say and what they do.

I walk by a group of women I know,one shouts "Hey Muscles!". I mentioned to a customer at work how I might be a "Chippendale"(not decided) for Halloween and she said "Be sure to stop by my house". It seems like one women at least a day grabs onto my darn biceps or punches my chest......I didn't start lifting weights for this(women I know not random strangers). Granted its nice to receive compliments on my physique,but I'm starting to become annoyed by it. I'm not even built like a bodybuilder,but more; http://asoboo.com/images/full/101.jpg
I would be fine with a compliment or two a week,but it seems like I'm just becoming an object to alot of people.

How do you deal with it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'll tell you the same thing I tell chicks when they complain about all the guys that hit on them................GET FAT AND UGLY AND YOU WON'T HAVE A PROBLEM
 

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Accuse them of sexual harassment,flirt and bang them.When they're taking it up the arse they are the "object".
 

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blinkwatt said:
Every since I have been lifting weights and becoming bigger and more muscular I notice that I'm almost not respected anymore,by some women, as a human but more as an object.

Its both what they say and what they do.

I walk by a group of women I know,one shouts "Hey Muscles!". I mentioned to a customer at work how I might be a "Chippendale"(not decided) for Halloween and she said "Be sure to stop by my house". It seems like one women at least a day grabs onto my darn biceps or punches my chest......I didn't start lifting weights for this(women I know not random strangers). Granted its nice to receive compliments on my physique,but I'm starting to become annoyed by it. I'm not even built like a bodybuilder,but more; http://asoboo.com/images/full/101.jpg
I would be fine with a compliment or two a week,but it seems like I'm just becoming an object to alot of people.

How do you deal with it?
What a stupid post! "Oh poor me! Women hit on me all day long, and they only want me for my muscles! Oh, what am I going to do?!" Do you realize how stupid this sounds? What DID you start lifting weights for then?
 

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have to concur. You're upset about women compilmenting YOU. As someone more intelligent than me once said "The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ValleyDJing said:
What DID you start lifting weights for then?
I started lifting weights because I was 115 pounds freshman year,I WAS SKINNY! I did it as more of a self-improvement thing and now am 150 pounds. If you lift weights for the women,then you will not have the dedication to go in there twice a day,four days a week like I do. People who lift for themselves can basically stay in the gym knowing everytime they pick up a weight they make their life better.
 

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If you lift weights for the women,then you will not have the dedication to go in there twice a day,four days a week like I do.
I do. I don't go in that often but I'd say at least 3 days a week for the past year.

Just curious do you do protein shakes or protein supplements?

Also, how tall are you?
 

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blinkwatt said:
Every since I have been lifting weights and becoming bigger and more muscular I notice that I'm almost not respected anymore,by some women, as a human but more as an object.

Its both what they say and what they do.

I walk by a group of women I know,one shouts "Hey Muscles!". I mentioned to a customer at work how I might be a "Chippendale"(not decided) for Halloween and she said "Be sure to stop by my house". It seems like one women at least a day grabs onto my darn biceps or punches my chest......I didn't start lifting weights for this(women I know not random strangers). Granted its nice to receive compliments on my physique,but I'm starting to become annoyed by it. I'm not even built like a bodybuilder,but more; http://asoboo.com/images/full/101.jpg
I would be fine with a compliment or two a week,but it seems like I'm just becoming an object to alot of people.

How do you deal with it?
Wow stfu haha. But seriously, that type of physique is I guess the ideal for the most part, a bodybuilder physique definatley isn't. I think your just braging.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
I do. I don't go in that often but I'd say at least 3 days a week for the past year.

Just curious do you do protein shakes or protein supplements?

Also, how tall are you?
No supplements at all. I'm 5 7". I used to weight more,it was fat and muscle weight. I started cardio and started to eat alot healthier,trimmed 10 pounds.
 

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Unless your exceptionally good looking you are NOT that big believe it or not.

Oh boy I'm gonna start here. I'm decent looking(I'm no Brad Pitt). I'm 5 7",150 pounds,no creatine weight,no supplements at all,its all muscle,low body fat(9-10%),which makes for a very nice combo.

Unless you have broad shoulders, your NOT that big believe it or not.

Ha,my chest and shoulders are my strong point. I do my shoulder presses with 50-60 lb. dumbbells. I do my bench presses with 70-80 lb. dumbbells,no one in my weight range keeps up with me.

Unless your short and thats a little bit below average, your NOT that big believe it or not.

I clearly stated I'm NOT that big,which is why I'm wondering what would happen if I continue to push at the gym soo hard.

BUT you have made a BIG jump and put on a lot of muscle BUT your not skinny or BIG but now average weight.

I agree with you here.

So I think your a liar and either need a lot of attention or are a troll because the scenario you've mentioned doesn't compute logically.

I'm neither. I wouldn't start shouting troll yet buddy, look me up the forum,I've been here awhile now and I only wish to help others and vica versa.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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crab101 said:
OMG,someone please tell me this is a joke or this guy is a troll,please!You have to be kidding me,girls compliment on you and you hate that?wtf?girls approaching you,and you can easy get their numbers,you can easy get puzzy,but you dont want that?Your either gay,troll,or your just bragging.Man someone close or delete this thread,this has to be stupidness!
@ crab101

No one said I hate it,so dont say truth that isn't true. Another thing,what you call "puzzy",it not no.1 priority to everyone,get a grip on your life. All I'm looking for is someone who knows how to avoid/dodge these comments.
 

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Can you post up pics of yourself and block out your face or something? I don't think I believe you. You are either trying to brag in a hidden kind of way, or (and this is my assumption) you are just having one of those messageboard fantasies and dreaming up a problem you would like to have/trying to get respect from the dudes on the board (see: skip2mylou).
 

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I agree with some of the above posts - you are missing golden opportunities to bust on women, tease, and be a challenge.

You can act shocked and make a big deal about how you "aren't a piece of meat, you want to be appreciated for your inner beauty." All that crap that beautiful women say - you can totally turn it around on them.
 

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You can act shocked and make a big deal about how you "aren't a piece of meat, you want to be appreciated for your inner beauty." All that crap that beautiful women say - you can totally turn it around on them.

I like that!

You take your pick BUT do remember this that if you DID went from 115 - 150 I have alot of respect for you. If not your only lying to yourself brother.

I'm not lying infact I was above 155 not too long ago. I picked up cardio and started to eat healthy and dropped some bodyfat.

On a side note,its time like these when people come to ask for genuine help and people start to flame and call out who they think are trolls that drive people away from here.
 

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blinkwatt said:
Every since I have been lifting weights and becoming bigger and more muscular I notice that I'm almost not respected anymore,by some women, as a human but more as an object.

Its both what they say and what they do.

I walk by a group of women I know,one shouts "Hey Muscles!". I mentioned to a customer at work how I might be a "Chippendale"(not decided) for Halloween and she said "Be sure to stop by my house". It seems like one women at least a day grabs onto my darn biceps or punches my chest......I didn't start lifting weights for this(women I know not random strangers). Granted its nice to receive compliments on my physique,but I'm starting to become annoyed by it. I'm not even built like a bodybuilder,but more; http://asoboo.com/images/full/101.jpg
I would be fine with a compliment or two a week,but it seems like I'm just becoming an object to alot of people.

How do you deal with it?

I hear ya man!! Don't let all these flamers burn you down. I get that sometimes with co-workers and girls that know me. They have seen my pic's and have came up to me and wanted me to let them run their fingers down my abs...LOL sounds silly but they really do go Ga Ga sometimes.

BUT you have to look at it like this. When you see a big breasted bed thrasher and think to yourself "NICE RACK" your guilty of the same thing. Howerver; it seems girls can come up and ask to touch you, but we could never get away with that at work....

SO in the end my personal opinion from some experience would be this....IT's life. If you don't want to get bigger because of it just maintain and stay lean.

Peace 'n Beats.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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