do you ever doubt yourself?

[onyx]

I don't mean with women or anything. I mean with moves you've made like educational/career wise.

The thing with me, is I'm almost 22, and I'm still in education. I won't complete education until I'm almost 25. And then, I'll be still living at home, have no car or license, no money, no job, and be in my mid 20's with £20k of student debts. I don't often doubt myself, I guess its just periods I have every so often. Just some times I feel as if i'm wasting my life, getting my degree, and when I have it, I'll be already in my mid 20's and having nothing of my own, and then theres no gurantee that I'll get a higher paid job than what I could if I was working fulltime now.

I see people I went to school with etc when we left school at 16, and they went straight into work, where as I went into college then university, and they've already living with their girlfriends, got cars etc. At the same time I guess they already settled down at 20/21 and will be in that same type of routine for the rest of their lifes, work, girlfriend, friends on weekends and then the same again etc, because thats how most people end up around where I live. Its not that I want what they've got at this age, because I don't want that for another 10 years, its just that I feel I'm wasting these years in education while I could be chasing the job and the car, and my own place.

Has any one ever been or thought about something similar in your own life. People tell me its nothing to worry about, as you can have all this once you finish your education...but at the same time theres always that self doubt

 

[El Don]

I am basically in the same situation although I don't doubt myself. I see my friends and they didn't really go to school and just went straight to getting full time jobs and getting their own places and settling down. It might seem like your struggling with money and finances now because your in school but just think about how much money you are going to make when you are done and get a real job. You will probbly make double what all your friends are making and you will be in a lot better financial situation then they will be because most of them (at least my friends with a few exceptions) are living paycheck to paycheck and barely have enough to pay for the bills and barely go out when the time comes.

Just realize how much better your life will be when you finish school and knowing you have a degree and I guarantee that you will have an advantage over alot of people in finding a better paying job. Don't regret going to college man because theres so many people in bad situations now that tell me they wish they could go back. Good luck man

 

[crackers444]

I can relate to this thread! I doubt myself and think negatively. I see other people who are completing University, have partners, homes. I went to University, but dropped out, have no job, no money and still live at home! My life doesn't seem to be changing!

 

[L B]

We all have our moments of doubt. Have you taken the time to evaluated your life and figure out what your priorities are? Do you know what you want to accomplish by the end of this year, 5 years, 10 years? Are the choices you are making getting you there? Seriously, are you making the most of your college years?

I was in your exact position several years ago. I was finishing up my degree. I know that it was costing me a lot of time and money, but I know, for me, that the payoff would be great. I did not want to leave my career to chance, so I was working graveyard for experience in my field as well as money to pay for college. It sucks to be working and going to school full-time; but your resume will thank you for it.

Also, college is a great time to break out of your shell if you make the time for it. I got most of my dating experience during my college years. I pretty much destroyed the afc in me during those years. Good times...good times...

Everything has its place and time. Whatever you want in life, you have to take risk and work hard for it.

 

[soxfan31]

I agree with the above. My opinion is that you have to doubt yourself, because if you don't than you won't feel like you have to prove something to yourself. I think it can give you drive.

 

[danielzxc]

I'm pretty sure virtually everyone's had doubts at that point in their lives. Maybe except those 'driven' types, who always knew they wanted to be a doctor (or whatever) ever since they were five, but even then I'm sure they were at least occasionally racked by doubts.

I was there a few years ago and I ended up dropping out. Did it for pretty much the reasons you outline: Car, move out, buy clothes, go out etc. None of my friends at the time were in university, which greatly added to the temptation to just can it and 'live life' a bit.

Now...I'm back at university doing what I should have done the first time. Arghhh! I'll end this post quickly because the more I think about it, the more I think what a complete %$#@$#@$# idiot I was and it gets me depressed.

Short answer: doubt are better than regrets -- a lot better!

Ciao.

 

[onyx]

its good to see that so many people can relate. I guess i can kinda be relieved that some people have gone through the same things, and its turned out ok.

 

[FoolsCause]

It depends on the degree. Alot of them are good for serving fries at McDonald's.

 

[Mental]

I don't mean with women or anything. I mean with moves you've made like educational/career wise.

The thing with me, is I'm almost 22, and I'm still in education. I won't complete education until I'm almost 25. And then, I'll be still living at home, have no car or license, no money, no job, and be in my mid 20's with £20k of student debts. I don't often doubt myself, I guess its just periods I have every so often. Just some times I feel as if i'm wasting my life, getting my degree, and when I have it, I'll be already in my mid 20's and having nothing of my own, and then theres no gurantee that I'll get a higher paid job than what I could if I was working fulltime now.

I see people I went to school with etc when we left school at 16, and they went straight into work, where as I went into college then university, and they've already living with their girlfriends, got cars etc. At the same time I guess they already settled down at 20/21 and will be in that same type of routine for the rest of their lifes, work, girlfriend, friends on weekends and then the same again etc, because thats how most people end up around where I live. Its not that I want what they've got at this age, because I don't want that for another 10 years, its just that I feel I'm wasting these years in education while I could be chasing the job and the car, and my own place.

Has any one ever been or thought about something similar in your own life. People tell me its nothing to worry about, as you can have all this once you finish your education...but at the same time theres always that self doubt

Phew. All the time. Every day.

I'm 27, and earn really horrible pay. But in defense, I work very hard, and I'm working on trying to get a career going, instead of a job that I'd hate.

Part of me occasionally wishes I had taken an internship that was offered to me. It would have meant dropping out of college temporarally, but I felt that college would prepare me better than a low paying internship.

I also have to convince myself that as bad as things can seem now, I would have had trouble dealing with a certain teacher who quickly rose to power ( a Professor who hated me and made me into his enemy.). Ironically, he got all the power a semester after my graduation, so I got through while he only had a little power to undermine. Had I dropped out and rejoined a semester or two later, I probably would not have graduated.

So... on some things, I do rethink my choices in life. But, hindsight being 20/20, I try not to obsess: If only I had gotten straight a's I could skip grades, go to college earlier, be a better student, possibly avoid this teacher completely, and ˆ'd be sipping martinii's in Hawaii.

If I had gotten started with the career right out of college, instead of looking for horrible 9 to 5 cublicle jobs, I'd be farther ahead now. I had known that certain event videography companies were bad, I would have saved a whole lot of money, put it into the riight kind of advertising, and be further ahead in my career. If I had known...

There's no way to go back and fix it, so why focus on the past like that? No thanks.