Do you constantly rate yourself against other guys and girls?

[Ricky]

I have to admit one thing that has always been a problem for me is that I will go into a situation like a bar and look around and rate people.

I compare myself to the other guys and kind of say, ok I am better looking than him, but maybe not him. Or even more so I might be intimidate by guys taller than me, not that they physically intimidate me but I feel like they will be tough competition for the girls there.

Then I look around at girls and kind of compare myself too. I might say some are out of my league or just really hot. Now I do this less now as I've gotten more successful, and I feel there are less girls out of my league.

So what tips do you have to avoid this?

One that I thought of is going into a bar and instead of having kind of a player hating attitude toward other guys, is to do the opposite and assume they are all friendly AFC's that have less game than you?

What do you do? Do you struggle with this as well?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Know you can get anything.... Know you are a great looking, charming fellow...

Only times I will rate other boys are mainly if I have a problem trying to understand why some guys I see/know get alot of girls, when it makes no sense!

 

[Blurred Elevens]

You are an AFC. If you were into your own game, other dudes would be irrelevant.

I've got news for you and the rest here, girls aren't as obsessed with the way a guy looks, compared to how a guy thinks about girls. There are so many losers/dorks out there that are pretty, but give me a break. I personally despise dudes trying to be pretty, that's for pussies and not masculine if you ask me..Girls want a man, not some boy trying to look like a *****! Be confident dude.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Blurred Elevens
You are an AFC. If you were into your own game, other dudes would be irrelevant.

I agree, I realized this a few years ago when I started meeting women who weren't attracted to Tom Cruise type men. Yeah, they said he was cute and a "nice guy." That was enough for me to know that trying to be like everyone else was the worse thing I could do. Make an effort to make a name for yourself and skip wasting time worrying about how you compare.

There's a French saying "Viva la difference!!!" A DJ is his own man, the only person that he ever compares himself to who he was yesterday and whether or not he is a better man today. That is all that matters, do you think that DJs worry about AFCs? Get real....

 

[jbbrain]

everything said here is true.

I would never say full blown comparing yourself to other guys is ever healthy. You need some more self confidence and a healthy dose of reality. Yes, there'll ALWAYS be guys whol look better than you, but you HAVE to maximize that which has been given to you. Anybody can be great with girls if they really want it.

And even if you do catch yourself comparing yourself (which i admit i do from tioem to time) dont downplay other guys who are getting action. Theres nothing worse than a playerhater. Focus all that jealousy and resentment into self improvement.

 

[Ricky]

Yes I obviously know as a DJ that it is irrational and not good behavior. I just wanted to know if I wasn't the only one doing the subconscious rating game.

Run your own game is my mantra to break it. That means, don't look and be jealous of some guy with a hot girl with him. Find your own hot girl and get it going.