Hi guys
Do you respond at all when you get an email from a girl who says she'll organise a date when she has some spare time?
Here's the context. I met a girl a couple of months ago at a friend's birthday dinner. We got on well, there was loads of eye contact between us, but there were loads of friends around and it was hard to escalate too much around a restaurant dinner table. I was outside when she left and I didn't get a chance to get her number. A mutual friend gave me her email but told me this chick had recently caught her 6 year boyfriend cheating and was now single and in a bad place and also overloaded with study and not catching up much with her own friends.
I sent her an email to catch up, she took over a week to respond but eventually did and we agreed to meet. When trying to arrange, she said her only free time was on a particular day and asked if I wanted to meet her for lunch. My DJ barometer usually tells me this is a bad vibe - lunch dates don't usually create room for sexy interactions. I mean, sitting opposite each other over a cafe table, no alcohol, no room for kino etc equals bad vibe. Given she had pressed only being free for a day meet, I agreed to meet her for lunch and the days before the date we had been exchanging quite a few emails. Date went reasonably well but again it was a bit hard to create anything special over a cafe table. In addition, she is a very intellectual thinker and we had fascinating conversation, but once again my DJ barometer tells me that intellectual discussion, fascinating as it may be, kills any sexy mood on a date! The day after I emailed her and said it was great to meet, lets do again. No response for a week and then an email saying "I was great meeting thanks, I know of another cool cafe for lunch and will let you know again when I have a spare moment and we can arrange".
Now again my DJ barometer thinks, "fVck that", I am not waiting around for some girl to decide if she can be bothered contacting me again to catch up. It also has overtones of blowing me off without doing it directly.
But the thing is, we both have very close mutual friends and I dont want to look like a wuss or show signs of being upset. I need to maintain my dignity and not look like I care either way because I am sure I will run into her again.
How does a more sophisticated DJ handle this situation? Do I email back or just ignore the email? If I do contact, what does the sophisticated DJ say?
Do you respond at all when you get an email from a girl who says she'll organise a date when she has some spare time?
Here's the context. I met a girl a couple of months ago at a friend's birthday dinner. We got on well, there was loads of eye contact between us, but there were loads of friends around and it was hard to escalate too much around a restaurant dinner table. I was outside when she left and I didn't get a chance to get her number. A mutual friend gave me her email but told me this chick had recently caught her 6 year boyfriend cheating and was now single and in a bad place and also overloaded with study and not catching up much with her own friends.
I sent her an email to catch up, she took over a week to respond but eventually did and we agreed to meet. When trying to arrange, she said her only free time was on a particular day and asked if I wanted to meet her for lunch. My DJ barometer usually tells me this is a bad vibe - lunch dates don't usually create room for sexy interactions. I mean, sitting opposite each other over a cafe table, no alcohol, no room for kino etc equals bad vibe. Given she had pressed only being free for a day meet, I agreed to meet her for lunch and the days before the date we had been exchanging quite a few emails. Date went reasonably well but again it was a bit hard to create anything special over a cafe table. In addition, she is a very intellectual thinker and we had fascinating conversation, but once again my DJ barometer tells me that intellectual discussion, fascinating as it may be, kills any sexy mood on a date! The day after I emailed her and said it was great to meet, lets do again. No response for a week and then an email saying "I was great meeting thanks, I know of another cool cafe for lunch and will let you know again when I have a spare moment and we can arrange".
Now again my DJ barometer thinks, "fVck that", I am not waiting around for some girl to decide if she can be bothered contacting me again to catch up. It also has overtones of blowing me off without doing it directly.
But the thing is, we both have very close mutual friends and I dont want to look like a wuss or show signs of being upset. I need to maintain my dignity and not look like I care either way because I am sure I will run into her again.
How does a more sophisticated DJ handle this situation? Do I email back or just ignore the email? If I do contact, what does the sophisticated DJ say?