That someone can go from being beta to a dj? I want to hear any stories anyone knows of anyone this has happened to because i've never really saw this. I've been lurking this site and forum for a while now and decided it's time to improve my "game".
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do you believe..
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NobodyCares1
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I think that this transformation happened to a lot of people on this forum... and it happened to me also... I used to be a complete and desperate AFC... now I'm not saying that I'm a DJ just yet... but I'm on a path to achieve DJ mastery... I know that I have to make it... even now I'm a lot more succesful with women than a half year ago... not by small part thanks to this site...
blind_one
Master Don Juan
Your journey won't be easy but working out, dressing to impress, no fap help tremendously.
Just lurking won't change much, you need to go out to the society and engage people, I've noticed as I'm striving more and more towards my self improvements, I'm putting myself more out in the field be it a pub with rock/metal music or creating bbq+campfire evenings and I tell my friends to invite some other people and then I mingle with them all having fun my crew with some beers and delicious meals.
Summer came I have my summer job and I go out a lot, which basicly means I'm playing the numbers game which you could say dating is.
Your journey won't be easy but working out, dressing to impress, no fap help tremendously.
Take it from my own story I only kissed one girl on the lips during my entire life ( the one I lost my v-card to ) and now it just happened, there was no hesitation bs, like should I kiss her or not or I'll w8 for the perfect moment.
Week later I organised a bbq and my female friend I keep in contact from highschool ( haven't seen her two months or so, she had some problems + end of semester ) commented that I lost w8 and I'm so slim , later that night she Instant Messanged me that ( and I call her on her bs bcuz I only lost like 2-4 pounds) and she replys that I'm bigger/grown bigger ( I've been working out) and that her friend found me hot ( not my type tho ).
Its not about them, it's about yourself being the best you, to have a good life, not taking **** from anybody and detaching yourself emotionaly from the outcome.
If you work on yourself, for yourself, and put yourself out there, somethings are guaranteed to happen for you.
Just lurking won't change much, you need to go out to the society and engage people, I've noticed as I'm striving more and more towards my self improvements, I'm putting myself more out in the field be it a pub with rock/metal music or creating bbq+campfire evenings and I tell my friends to invite some other people and then I mingle with them all having fun my crew with some beers and delicious meals.
Summer came I have my summer job and I go out a lot, which basicly means I'm playing the numbers game which you could say dating is.
Your journey won't be easy but working out, dressing to impress, no fap help tremendously.
Take it from my own story I only kissed one girl on the lips during my entire life ( the one I lost my v-card to ) and now it just happened, there was no hesitation bs, like should I kiss her or not or I'll w8 for the perfect moment.
Week later I organised a bbq and my female friend I keep in contact from highschool ( haven't seen her two months or so, she had some problems + end of semester ) commented that I lost w8 and I'm so slim , later that night she Instant Messanged me that ( and I call her on her bs bcuz I only lost like 2-4 pounds) and she replys that I'm bigger/grown bigger ( I've been working out) and that her friend found me hot ( not my type tho ).
Its not about them, it's about yourself being the best you, to have a good life, not taking **** from anybody and detaching yourself emotionaly from the outcome.
If you work on yourself, for yourself, and put yourself out there, somethings are guaranteed to happen for you.
Fly By Night
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You can do ittttt!
It's going to be tough, no doubt, but you have to keep in mind that you are NOT going to be amazing at your first go. I can easily remember my first starting approaches. I was getting good reception, but couldn't seal dates. I eventually reflected on my approaches *ALWAYS reflect and critique your approaches, do not get discouraged by them* and then got dates, then got kiss closes, then got intimate time with her. I'm still a virgin, but I intend to start going in harder this coming semester.
You need to improve from where you stand NOW. Don't compare yourself to the DJ's here who have years worth of experience under their belt.
It's going to be tough, no doubt, but you have to keep in mind that you are NOT going to be amazing at your first go. I can easily remember my first starting approaches. I was getting good reception, but couldn't seal dates. I eventually reflected on my approaches *ALWAYS reflect and critique your approaches, do not get discouraged by them* and then got dates, then got kiss closes, then got intimate time with her. I'm still a virgin, but I intend to start going in harder this coming semester.
You need to improve from where you stand NOW. Don't compare yourself to the DJ's here who have years worth of experience under their belt.
Mr.SomeoneElse
Don Juan
I was thinking of sharing my story in a separate thread.
If you'd like me to write it out let me know and i'll post it.
But just understand that it does happen and you can watch it happen when you compare yourself to the people who used to be alpha over you and how **** they've gotten
If you'd like me to write it out let me know and i'll post it.
But just understand that it does happen and you can watch it happen when you compare yourself to the people who used to be alpha over you and how **** they've gotten
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr.SomeoneElse please share your story and thanks for the reply guys I like your stories especially yours blind_one i guess your right it's about getting out there and applying the methods. The problem with me was I was once a pretty ****y guy if I say so myself when I was younger I used to get girls no problem now I feel as if im allergic to girls now and whenever I try to get with them its LJBF. When I found this site I didn't know what to expect I read a few articles and realized this sites for me my mindsets getting a little better.. past couple days I haven't been that LJBF type but also not a jerk can't wait for the journey your guys advice and insight would be appreciated thanks guys
ilikecharlene
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yes, since new skills can always be learnt.