You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Start writing goals and whats required to reach them down. Write them into a notebook. Player Supreme said how you start out the day is how you finish, so start strong. He
We both need to be off this board and doing what it takes.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Now you are talking. There is a limit.
Yeah live life add new shyt report back in three months. We've complain long enough and we know what has to be done.
Okay.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I don't think you mentioned hypergamy there at all. Buying a girl a house? That's insane. And that's not hypergamy, that's sugar daddying and expensive prostitution.
What? That is all hypergamous behavior. Alpha ****s/beta bucks, sexual pluralism. Branch swinging is moving up to higher SMV, so all those examples are hypergamy. Women seeking provisions and safety in the form of money and shelter, beta bucks, classic hypergamy. Guy who consistently fvcks hot women and never commits, alpha.
It all boils down to finding someone to leech off of.