Do women who go for "cheaters" really suffer because of hypergamic choice?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this, and it got me thinking ...

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...dence_i_wish_my_ex_would_die_i_really_do.html

I recently ended a relationship after a year, after I found out that my ex was cheating on me, via Facebook. He woke up in my bed and fell asleep in hers. I was out shopping for his Christmas present at the time he was taking her on a date. She knew he had a girlfriend and did not care. I was blindsided. I have been cheated on before and ended many relationships, but for some reason I am still feeling angry about this four months later. I find myself daily wishing he would die a slow painful death or drink himself to death. I have never felt such hate in my life toward someone and it scares me. I know lots of people joke about this, but I am not joking. I don’t want to harm him, I just hope something really horrible happens to make him suffer. I am a good person, I volunteer, have good friends, and have never had feelings like this before and I feel horribly guilty. How can I move past this, or is this normal?

It seems to me that what has happened is that her boyfriend (I will presume not her husband as she doesn't term him as that) is higher up the sexual market value scale than her, and he just figured that she could fit in a place his harem (evidently, the "house concubine"). Had she gotten with a man at her sexual market value, he would have been content, and she would not have been cheated on. My opinion is that she got what she deserved.

On a side note, it also seems that these hypergamous women get extraordinarily angry - this one even here wishing that her man were dead, even though she is a "good person".

 

[zekko]

Had she gotten with a man at her sexual market value, he would have been content, and she would not have been cheated on

I don't think that's necessarily true. Maybe the guy is just a cheater.