"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do women say they don't have hobbies because...

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...they don't have time for hobbies?

Ever ask someone, male or female, what they like to do for fun or on their spare time? And it's met with a "laugh" and then, "What free time? What hobbies?! I have none!"

But yet, you're at a leisure social gathering or perhaps some outdoor backyard BBQ event they've actually found time for?

But with women, I get the feeling they've already shot you down at that point?


Is it really womenese for, "I'm here, being friendly and mingling with you, and there ARE things that I do specifically enjoy, but I choose not to share them with you because I don't want you to take the next step to asking me to do these things WITH you."

It's like a pre-preemptive rejection without her ever having to actually reject you should you try to take ask for her out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Women typically live more easily than men (one of the reasons why they live a little longer) so they have more time to have hobbies. No such thing as a woman without free time. Not the desireable women in 2017 anyway. Ignorant post that should be common sense. But then again I have to remember it's you who is writing it.
 

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I think many of them are just partying and riding the c0ck carousel which by societies standards doesnt qualify as an acceptable hobby so you get some crappy answer specially if her interest level is already low. Think about it, how would you find the time to fuk all the guys within your social circle AND on the infinite long tinder-list of desperate guys if u were a girl? This would have to be your hobby.
 

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I think many of them are just partying and riding the c0ck carousel which by societies standards doesnt qualify as an acceptable hobby so you get some crappy answer specially if her interest level is already low. Think about it, how would you find the time to fuk all the guys within your social circle AND on the infinite long tinder-list of desperate guys if u were a girl? This would have to be your hobby.
LOL...good point. I'm finding out from my more conservative friends that they avoid some of these circles simply because some guy would ask them out, but they would find out they fcked Sue, Tiffany, Theresa, etc etc...keeping it ALL in the circle.
 

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I think many of them are just partying and riding the c0ck carousel which by societies standards doesn't qualify as an acceptable hobby so you get some crappy answer especially if her interest level is already low. Think about it, how would you find the time to fuk all the guys within your social circle AND on the infinite long tinder-list of desperate guys if u were a girl? This would have to be your hobby.
True, you've probably picked up that they secretly hide all the CC activity. There's something there that seems "off". Some of the conversation with her may sound like riddles sometimes because she indirectly will answer direct questions or change subjects or obfuscate if you pry too hard. I think we all just find it hard to believe that a typical woman comes home from a long day at work, maybe does cardio for 30-60 mins, makes a quick meal like a big salad for dinner with a side of rice pilaf, sit down and watch 5 hours of Netflix each night. :rolleyes:

I think the trick here is to match her obscurity with your own mysteriousness. Either 1) have an interesting life that's fun, busy, with plates at various days/evenings and time of the week 2) fake it till you make it ;) (so she thinks you have options).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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True, you've probably picked up that they secretly hide all the CC activity. There's something there that seems "off". Some of the conversation with her may sound like riddles sometimes because she indirectly will answer direct questions or change subjects or obfuscate if you pry too hard. I think we all just find it hard to believe that a typical woman comes home from a long day at work, maybe does cardio for 30-60 mins, makes a quick meal like a big salad for dinner with a side of rice pilaf, sit down and watch 5 hours of Netflix each night. :rolleyes:

I think the trick here is to match her obscurity with your own mysteriousness. Either 1) have an interesting life that's fun, busy, with plates at various days/evenings and time of the week 2) fake it till you make it ;) (so she thinks you have options).
I had girls tell me they have no hobbies or they watch 5 hours of netflix before bed....

Personally I don't know what to answer to that.... I've been tempted to say ''you'll find the time long, better pick a hobby''.

Or its their way of saying they not interested ... and yet... they keep inviting or making contacts
 
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