Do women only love you for what you can do for them?

[gov87]

It's pretty sad to hear this is the way of the female. However, it's also very helpful as I'm rebuilding my life and understanding of life.

I'm with you all that it is disappointing. I'm sure others have had this feeling, but it's like a huge letdown that a woman will not just actually LOVE you for YOU no matter what. That unconditional love. For myself, it makes me very paranoid while dating bc of feeling like you're just being used. When the heck do you know you got a keeper or someone that will stay with you to the end?

 

[latinnova]

It's pretty sad to hear this is the way of the female. However, it's also very helpful as I'm rebuilding my life and understanding of life.

I'm with you all that it is disappointing. I'm sure others have had this feeling, but it's like a huge letdown that a woman will not just actually LOVE you for YOU no matter what. That unconditional love. For myself, it makes me very paranoid while dating bc of feeling like you're just being used. When the heck do you know you got a keeper or someone that will stay with you to the end?

My friend, you never will know. Life will go about how it will, you have to be willing to take that risk, and what a risk it is. Once married, the wife has major leverage and can take half of your assets, you can end up paying alimony, she will typically get the kids, so on and so forth.... The only proven positive outcome of a marriage is its a more stable environment to raise kids in. Other then that you just potentially drove all the nails into your financial coffin, and your wife has the hammer to slam that last nail home. I speak the truth, just went through it myself. I don't think anyone here that has been through a divorce will disagree with me.

I'm pretty much done with marriage. And if for some retarded reason I do it again, then a heavy duty pre-nup will be drawn up to try and protect my assetts. I say try, because pre-nups are almost always discarded by the courts.

 

[gov87]

My friend, you never will know. Life will go about how it will, you have to be willing to take that risk, and what a risk it is. Once married, the wife has major leverage and can take half of your assets, you can end up paying alimony, she will typically get the kids, so on and so forth.... The only proven positive outcome of a marriage is its a more stable environment to raise kids in. Other then that you just potentially drove all the nails into your financial coffin, and your wife has the hammer to slam that last nail home. I speak the truth, just went through it myself. I don't think anyone here that has been through a divorce will disagree with me.

I'm pretty much done with marriage. And if for some retarded reason I do it again, then a heavy duty pre-nup will be drawn up to try and protect my assetts. I say try, because I have heard many instances where pre-nups were simply discarded by the courts.

I really respect how you and some of the other posters have handled their situations with their posts about divorce. I'm 27 right now, never married, just bought a nice house, have a good job, and really would like to have a family one day. However, as you said, it's a huge risk. People have told me "ah it's never perfect, blah blah" in regards to finding a good girl to marry. From what I've read i think it's perfectly fine to wait for something pretty good so you potentially avoid any of these things in the future. My ex once told me that she was waiting ever holiday for her ring and didn't feel good enough bc I hadn't propose... get this- people told me that was normal. lol

 

[sodbuster]

The only woman in this country who will love you unconditionally is your MOTHER..... The rest have conditions.

 

[sodbuster]

Now MAYBE a girl from a 3rd world country.... don't know for a FACT though

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Now MAYBE a girl from a 3rd world country.... don't know for a FACT though

Saw this documentary on Netflix. British guy in a small town ordered himself a Russian. She showed up, and after she realized all he was good for was sitting around drinking, she left.

And he cried.

Women are only genetically programmed to love their children.

ALL OTHER LOVE is conditional.

Take NOTHING for granted.

 

[nismo-4]

It's called Briffault's Law. This term was tossed around a lot in 2012 and 2013.

AFAIC I don't believe in love. It's some overblown term that women can't even define. Men usually have a definite definition of it. I'd rather simplify this sh*t and call it one of two things:

1. Interested
2. Not interested.

Women love their children. Your mother loves you. That's as far as love goes without some sort of bartering going on.

There are many reasons why I will never get married. I do know for a fact that your ipad and smartphone will treat you so much better than a wife will, particularly in 2014.

With dating and relationships, it's like a minefield. One misstep is all it takes to f**k you up.