Do women notice/judge you on your social skills with other people?

[.Paradox.]

Don't know if anyone here would actually know the answers to these or not...

Do women notice who you talk to? How many people you talk to? How many people you know and know you? How many people you say hello to? How you talk to people?

Just something I was thinking about...

 

[Proselytiser]

Yes they do. Especially who you hang out with

 

[dap]

Yes, this is all very important. Women want men who are strong and confident, who are proud of who they are (not the same as arrogant), and who other girls and men enjoy being around. Men who do these things will have lots of friends and will talk confidently to anyone. Women notice this and it is a big part of social proof that women crave.

 

[Schwank]

Do women notice who you talk to?

Well it all depends on how often you see these women. If they're co-workers or classmates, then yeah, they do. And it's not just restricted to women.

How many people you talk to?

Yeah, sure. Think about it. Don't you notice the social butterflys and, on the other end of the spectrum, the loners at work/school?

How many people you know and know you?

Well, classmates and co-workers probably don't know the exact details of whom you know and who knows you (unless perhaps they are keen on you and what to find out more about you), but they can tell if you're the isolated type or sociable type.

How many people you say hello to?

Again, they're not keeping tabs, man! They won't have a log book and take note of every time you greet someone. Like I wrote above, they just have an idea on what end of the social spectrum you fall under.

How you talk to people?

Yes, everybody notices this. You can discern over time the grouches from the happy people, the snobs from the level-headed, the confident from the bashful and the socially ept from the socially inept just from WHAT a person says and HOW the person says it.

Social skills are one of the most important skills to have. Without them, most people will live pretty isolated, depressing lives.

 

[Willis]

i never thought about this because im in college and hardly ever greet anybody and only speak if i need to or if i feel like it.... i just mind my own business...

 

[iliketennis]

don't mind your own business... talk to everyone, guys and girls. say hi to people in your class. make fun of the teachers, homework, etc. talk to people when standing in line at quiznos

 

[Poonani Maker]

Well, my job throws me into the fire, the thick, of social interaction. Daily, I'll meet/converse with 70 or so people. However, before this career I was a cooped-up programmer in the back office for a cellphone company. It's good for me to be in a social career, because I'm NOT social otherwise. I really can't stand people most of the time. Women, in my circle, KNOW how social my job is, and by that knowledge ALONE, they want me. I consider myself NOT sociable, but women will Stamp me as "sociable" because they know what I do, and who I meet, and because of that, I'm somehow "high status."

I catch them looking at me from across the room while I'm talking with just about anybody. That's ALL they care about. Who this, who that. Fvck em. They're all hoes.

 

[Accension]

Yes Paradox,
Women judge you socially just as men do.
No need to analyse it more than that.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

Social proof is magic. I really can't say enough about it - it's among the very most important things you can use to land a highly desirable woman.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Most women aren't really going to be paying that much attention to you unless they already know you. But yes, if they already know you, typically they will notice how well you interact with other people in general. The more comfortable you seem in your environment, the more comfortable they'll be with you.