"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Do women lose *physical* attraction?

Dirtheart

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Obviously women can lose a sense of attraction for a guy once they get to know him, he starts to reveal AFC traits, makes the wrong impression etc, but I was wondering if the same applies to physical attraction. If a woman finds a guy physically attractive, does this disappear alongside the psychological attraction?

I know (thanks to this site) that all my relationships failed due to my insecurities and a lot of my ex- girlfriends still compliment me on my looks and image. I've never been sure whether they're just being kind or whether there might still be some superficial attraction there.

I assume the only answers here are going to be theoretical, but I'm curious to know what people think.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think no matter what, if you look at someone often enough, their physical attractiveness will wane in its value to you.

Girls deal with this I think with hair, makeup and wardrobe changes. How we do it, I don't know.
 

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Physical attraction won't diminish unless you let yourself get out of shape. But a woman's attraction to a man isn't based SOLELY on looks. So if she starts to think of you as a wuss, or you start to get on her nerves, or you become more of a jerk, etc. then it won't matter much if you have a hot body/great hair/etc. Plus its like anything, after you have it then it doesn't always look as good as you thought it did. That new car you wanted for years may still look awesome on your driveway but after a few years you probably won't be as excited about it.

So the value of physical attraction can decrease I would say.
 

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What FlyGuy said.



There is the initial surprise and delight that I have a good body, but efforts should be made to keep it at that level or get better. One will be acclimitized to it eventually anyways.
 

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Sometimes you notice things that you hadn't realized before... and in the wrong moment it can turn you off of that person all together (totally shallow, yes, but still true).

Sometimes a person's personality actually affects their PHYSICAL appearance in your mind... ever notice that someone can become better looking to you if they carry themselves with confidence or is really funny... works in reverse too.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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yes if you're basing solely on physical attraction it can and will decrease.

for instance, i see this chick in class the first few times, she's hot and attractive. after those few times, she's just another regular girl and im not longer interested in her as much as first. it's almost like watching porno, you see this HB9 in the video. watch it a few times its great. after that you wanna see other babes and dump that tape aside. for instance @ this coffee shop, the first few times the counter lady glances at me everytime she seeks me walk in. but after that im just another regular joe...yes this is true, im fairly good looking.

but i believe that @ first physical attraction sparks an interest in that person. but after awhile we will lose that interest and not care. we know for a fact they are still good looking and they havent gotten uglier, but they dont spark our attention as much as it used to. Reminds me of when i was a kid and i'd get sick of a toy after awhile
 

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Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Sometimes you notice things that you hadn't realized before... and in the wrong moment it can turn you off of that person all together (totally shallow, yes, but still true).

Sometimes a person's personality actually affects their PHYSICAL appearance in your mind... ever notice that someone can become better looking to you if they carry themselves with confidence or is really funny... works in reverse too.
a great example of this is when i was dating this 9.5 named caitlin and we went camping. anyways we had a great time and i was very attracted to her. however, when we got back she left some of her clothes in my car and right ontop of all of it she left a nasty pair of panties with some kinda **** all over it. needless to say i pretty much had to cut her from the team just for that, heartless maybe, but i just couldn't get it outta my head. i just didnt find her as attractive anymore

how many of you guys have been with a woman for a while and really enjoyin things then you hear her fart in the sack or something crazy, almost ruins the whole physical thing instantly doesn't it. haha. anywayz. :)
 
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