She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is what I think as well.Originally posted by Centaurion
I've never said sorry to a b!tch before. I'm a man and I stand by my actions/decisions.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ok perhaps I should of put another option upOriginally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
It's okay if you actually do something wrong, like one of the replies said. In that case, it is legitimate. As far as them thinking you are a real man as the result, come on--you don't have any options I like, so I'm not voting, and I stand by that decision/action.
lol yeah but that isn't serious enough .Originally posted by Eccentric
"My puppy died" - Im sorry to hear that.
"Why are you making fun of me?!? - If you say your sorry, God help you.
if she truly is a dirty slut then why should u be sorry? you were just being honest.What if for example you called a girl a dirtly slut in front of her friends?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What if you burn down her house, then refuse to rescue her because you're too busy saving your collection of ear wax?Originally posted by Centaurion
I've never said sorry to a b!tch before. I'm a man and I stand by my actions/decisions.
Why would you be in this situation?Originally posted by 00Kevin
What if for example you called a girl a dirtly slut in front of her friends?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Because she hates me, I hate her, let's **** up her little pathetic world.Why would you be in this situation?What if for example you called a girl a dirtly slut in front of her friends?
I used to be like that too, and I have met another girl that does the exact same thing and it drives me nuts. I don't apologize to anyone unless I've actually done something to justify the apology. It's like someone else said too, screwing up bad enough to apologize should rarely happen anyway, but it does on occasion.Originally posted by ScrewIt
No, i never say im sorry unless i fvck up real bad. Its funny really how most guys and women use sorry so much everyday that's its become part of their nice persona nature. i used to be like that but i changed for the better
It all depends on a situation.Originally posted by 00Kevin
There are some people who are voting that it makes a woman realize that you are a real man.
Could you please provide examples of this? It is nice to imagine that it is true but if you can't back it up with exampels then don't vote for that one.
well I think the conclusion here is that saying sorry doesn't really mean anything to a woman. Most are just like you said, "Stuck up" b-tiches anyway.Originally posted by DJDamage
It all depends on a situation.
I think you shouldn't say sorry so much because its weak. If you fvck up too much and feel the need to say sorry too much you obviously don't have your sh1t together or not dating the right woman. Also your woman should have the responsibility to say that she is sorry when she is wrong and show that she means it (the more a couple feel the need to use the word "sorry" the more likely their relationship will fail) .She also should not make you feel guilty for saying sorry but rather embrace you. There are too many stuckup b1tches walking around those days making their man feel guilty and holding his appology against him (and do not appologize to their men when they themsleves are wrong!!). Don't date these women.
DjDamage
Exactly."My puppy died" - Im sorry to hear that.
"Why are you making fun of me?!? - If you say your sorry, God help you.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.