I'm not sure about that. In theory, what if a dude had a well rounded life in all regards except he hadn't got the female issues handled. In that case, you could say the girl did bring happiness because that was a major piece missing. Same with money or a good job or a house, or any of that stuff. You might have everything else together but if that one essential thing is gone that want, then having it will solve your problem.Paintballguy said:
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Do women bring happiness?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Paintballguy
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Just like beast said, it still would be an external way of being happy. Maybe it would make you happy that you finally got a girl. But, what if the girl left you? You would end up in the same boat being unhappy.speakeasy said:
It's just important to be happy with yourself. So that way anything extra you get will be icing on the cake.
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Well it's like asking a guy who has a well rounded life except for the fact that his malnourished if having food would solve his remainding problem. Sure it would. And what would happen if you took the food away? He'd go back to being unhappy.
See, this is one area where I tend to disagree with the DJ mindset. DJs believe you shouldn't need anyone else and your happiness should all come from within, but you know what, we're human and humans by evolution are social creatures. We NEED other people for mental health. I tend to think that DJs feel it's somehow the territory of betamales to admit such, but I think it's just natural, some people will surpress it just like the voluntarily chaste suppress their needs for sex.
Well it's like asking a guy who has a well rounded life except for the fact that his malnourished if having food would solve his remainding problem. Sure it would. And what would happen if you took the food away? He'd go back to being unhappy.
See, this is one area where I tend to disagree with the DJ mindset. DJs believe you shouldn't need anyone else and your happiness should all come from within, but you know what, we're human and humans by evolution are social creatures. We NEED other people for mental health. I tend to think that DJs feel it's somehow the territory of betamales to admit such, but I think it's just natural, some people will surpress it just like the voluntarily chaste suppress their needs for sex.
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Fulfillment brings you happiness!
Women are part of fulfillment to a man, as a man is fulfillment to her life! Complete fulfillment is when you have offspring and create a family - you have fulfilled your ultimate existence by generating a productive family who are an extension of you!
You can have happiness without a wife or a family but it will be based on a lower level of existence!
Women are part of fulfillment to a man, as a man is fulfillment to her life! Complete fulfillment is when you have offspring and create a family - you have fulfilled your ultimate existence by generating a productive family who are an extension of you!
You can have happiness without a wife or a family but it will be based on a lower level of existence!
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I tend to agree, but not everyone values having a family, so what makes them happy will be different than what would make you happy. I think it all comes down to expecations and what you expect out of life for your given age. I can tell you have expectations at 31 that were not present at 21, like having a house of my own for example.
I tend to agree, but not everyone values having a family, so what makes them happy will be different than what would make you happy. I think it all comes down to expecations and what you expect out of life for your given age. I can tell you have expectations at 31 that were not present at 21, like having a house of my own for example.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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be hapy inside. Dont depend on other things like women , drugs etc. Only if you find happiness within yourself can you live happily. Don't worry what others think or do.
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i'd say if you learn to be good with people and can relate to them in a genuine fashion it will go a long way towards happiness. becuase our well-being depends so much on the quality of our relationships its therefore a neccesity that we learn to interact with others in a meaningful fashion.
when you meet new people, try to draw them out to discover if you click.
its kinda like the whole give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day. teach a man to fish and he'll never be hungry thing.
focusing on the women or making a new friend is kinda like begging for fish.
developing the skills and understanding(learning to fish) for attracting women or making new friends will keep you satisfied for life.
and just like with fishing sometimes you get keepers and sometimes you don't. sometimes you have to throw them back.
learning how to "fish" socially should give you a confidence with people similar to what skilled indigenous hunter would have with their environment. they can go on a trek in the wilderness knowing that they have all the knowledge and skills to sustain themselves. you can go out in the world with the confidence that you'll always be nourished with good relationships.
when you meet new people, try to draw them out to discover if you click.
its kinda like the whole give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day. teach a man to fish and he'll never be hungry thing.
focusing on the women or making a new friend is kinda like begging for fish.
developing the skills and understanding(learning to fish) for attracting women or making new friends will keep you satisfied for life.
and just like with fishing sometimes you get keepers and sometimes you don't. sometimes you have to throw them back.
learning how to "fish" socially should give you a confidence with people similar to what skilled indigenous hunter would have with their environment. they can go on a trek in the wilderness knowing that they have all the knowledge and skills to sustain themselves. you can go out in the world with the confidence that you'll always be nourished with good relationships.
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IMO...yes. But it really depends on what you think happiness is and what is missing in your life. There were several good points in this thread but this one stuck out.
If you are currently Mr. Lonely and you are unhappy because of that, then a women could make you happy. Also having somebody to screw doesn't hurt eitherbeastmaster79 said:
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With the very limited relationship (both real and imaginary) that I have, I would have to say that feelings tend to polarise or go in more rough jagged ups and downs than without them where it would be more of a straight constant line. Again, I'm in such a way that I can be content with relatively little and have an excellent fuel economy as far as that's concerned.
For example, you may get positive intimate moments which punctuates the relationship experience, but then you wonder if she is really into you (and possibly she wonders that too), and if there is a dissapointment at realizing one party isn't really into the other party then it leads to allot of bad feelings.
So, I think as a net function it is the same with women or without it, except one is more of a straight line and the other is lines which are jagging all over the place. I would still like to get really intimate with a woman at some point in my life though.
But I like in terms of music - some female musical artists make me feel good when I listen to them, notibly Jaci Valesquez, Michelle Tumes and Enya, and Sarah McGlaughlin, since it stands to reason they are women artists, and I feel happy listening to them, then yeah, I think that point would stand there.
I also have some limited friendships with a girl and it feels good that they call me or invite me to go to her coffee shop (even if she is taken), yeah, it makes me feel good to.
So, I think women can make me feel happy, especially when it's all in my mind.
For example, you may get positive intimate moments which punctuates the relationship experience, but then you wonder if she is really into you (and possibly she wonders that too), and if there is a dissapointment at realizing one party isn't really into the other party then it leads to allot of bad feelings.
So, I think as a net function it is the same with women or without it, except one is more of a straight line and the other is lines which are jagging all over the place. I would still like to get really intimate with a woman at some point in my life though.
But I like in terms of music - some female musical artists make me feel good when I listen to them, notibly Jaci Valesquez, Michelle Tumes and Enya, and Sarah McGlaughlin, since it stands to reason they are women artists, and I feel happy listening to them, then yeah, I think that point would stand there.
I also have some limited friendships with a girl and it feels good that they call me or invite me to go to her coffee shop (even if she is taken), yeah, it makes me feel good to.
So, I think women can make me feel happy, especially when it's all in my mind.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.