"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do we need to be an AFC?

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Being a DJ for almost 2 years and having an LTR of 2 years. Is it possible to be and AFC sometimes, just to express our affection wirth the girl.

What if a girl wants us to prove that we love them? What shall we do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being nice to a girl when she deserves it does not mean that you are being an AFC. The difference is doing it because you want to and she deserves it, not because you are kissing up and expect to get something for it.
 
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i don't know how to be mysterious, is that the way?
 
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From my experience, being mysterious involves not revealing things she may want to know and sending mixed signals/messages. It seems to make chicks more intrigued by you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The difference is doing it because you want to and she deserves it, not because you are kissing up and expect to get something for it.
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I totally agree. There is no problem with being nice and showing your girlfriend affection. In fact, if you don't you will probably lose out to the next guy who does.
 
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