You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She will be the same woman who will get a flat tire and wonder why no one will stop to help her.I was reading a story of how a woman was raped by a man pretending he needed help.
I scrolled down to the comments and saw this gem posted by a woman:
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
don't worry, one thing I will always see is even if the girl is not hot, if there is a flat tire there will be a retard to do the work for her, and in most cases he won't even ask anything out of herShe will be the same woman who will get a flat tire and wonder why no one will stop to help her.
it's not safe for you either (men are not immune to criminals) but would that stop you?I don't think her comment is that bad in context...She's right that it's not safe for women to be good Samaritans out there.