do us guys ALWAYS have to decide everything?

[LoneWolf]

i hear all the time guys should take lead and make all the choices. like where to meet for a date, what to do, how to do, etc. some guys may really be born to lead and always take charge... but sometimes i don't like to do it all the time.

every now and then i do like to take control of the situation but for instance, i hate to be always saying where we should go on a date or what day to go, what movie we should watch, etc, just to look like a REAL man or whatever. do we really have to do this in order to keep their respect?

 

[Strelok]

It's no that you have to lead because of the orders from the high command,if it's you to chose the place and the moment you are in control of the situation thus limiting potentially annoying situations.

What if you let her chose the place and when you go there it happen that you find her friends cause it's a common place for them to meet?
Are you willing to spend an evening between the crossed fire or her friends?
What if she brings you to a vegan restaurant or you don't know the street to reach the place and you have to ask for direction at street corners?

You control the situation to limit the possible negative events,it a price worth to pay in order to avoid major annoyance later.

 

[LoneWolf]

i see your point. so for instance like a girl i saw last week, i told her to come to MY town because she lives far (plus im new to the city) and i don't have a car at the moment. i pretty much controlled that whole date... time, place, even ended the date first before it got too awkward. that kind of control? so it suits our needs before theirs sort of thing? cause like hell i was gonna catch a train back and forth to see her in a town i dont even know. well she didn't know my area either but at least she was driving and i paid for our date.

 

[Uberguy]

You're looking at this the wrong way.

It's not that we have to make all the decisions. ("So much stress!")

It's that we get to make all the decisions. ("Follow me!")

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

That's why they call it "the burden of command".