Do u tell ur GF about past girls?

[illmatic1005]

my gf told me she wants to know about my past girls and what i did with them and stuff, but that she doesnt wanna ask me bcuz she knows i dont like talking about it..

do u tell ur gf ur serious with about ur past experiences or no?

 

[DonJuan11]

my gf told me she wants to know about my past girls and what i did with them and stuff, but that she doesnt wanna ask me bcuz she knows i dont like talking about it..

do u tell ur gf ur serious with about ur past experiences or no?

Would you want her to tell you about her past experiences or no?

 

[KontrollerX]

Its not necessary and usually just creates problems so tell her the past is better left in the past and that you are with her now.

See if you tell her she could get mad at you or try to hold what you did with these chicks against you which is completely retarded and illogical since you did not cheat on her with these girls as they were before her and have nothing to do with your relationship with her.

 

[Gustav Yavo]

I try to just ignore and move away from that question/topic, like KontrollerX said it just causes uneeded drama. She doesn't need to know, those girls are in the past and she is in the present.

But i always like to find out how many guys my girl's been with and how far shes gotten just because im curious...

 

[illmatic1005]

i did find out about her past bcus she told me..but she said 'i told u and u didnt tell me so i feel like ur hiding something from me''

 

[KontrollerX]

Tell her that it was her decision to tell you her past but that in no way means you should be obligated to tell her yours.

Tell her she should respect your decision to not disclose your past as you respected her decision to disclose hers.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You should do everything your girlfriend tells you to do. She knows what's best. She's dating you, right?

 

[Gustav Yavo]

Tell her you would tell her... but that would take all night...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Tell her you would tell her... but that would take all night...

I'd give her the box of x-rated videos that he made with all of his ex's. Maybe she'll learn something new to do when it's her turn in front of the camera.

 

[Gustav Yavo]

Tell her "why should i tell you, when i can show you?"

 

[Dongfu]

Advise her not to ask questions that she doesnt want to hear the answers to

 

[nismo-4]

Gustav Yavo had the right answer here!

Otherwise, don't tell about your exes, cuz she'll tell, THEN WHINE about her exes. You'll become her emotional tampon before you know it and you'll never see her naked...

 

[DoctorLW]

I don't want to know theirs, they don't need to know mine.

 

[comic_relief]

I told my current girlfriend and she told me her stories as well. I do it as a test to test how jealous a girl will get. I am looking for a girl without much jealousy in her.

Finding that out is very important and can save lots of headaches.

comic_relief

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2
NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonsetly reveal the number of women you've slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

The single most disastrous AFC move a man can make is to OVERTLY describe past sexual experiences and/or give a number (accurate or not) to how many women he's been with prior to the one he's with. This simple act, whether you offered the information or she dragged it out of you, ALWAYS comes off as pretensiousness and is often the catalyst for an avalanche of emotional resentment, if not outright emotional blackmail from an insecure woman. This is a rookie mistake that will only take you once to learn.

If a woman puts you on the spot by directly asking you for this information always sidestep this COVERTLY. C&F works wonders in this situation and still keeps the air of mystery and challenge about you.

Her: "So how many girls have you been with?"
You: "You're my first actually"
Her: "Really, how many girls have you been with?"
You:" You mean tonight?"
Her: "C'mon, how many girls have you been with?"
You: "You know, I really lost count after 50" (or something outrageous).

When a woman asks you this question she is seeking confirmation of what she already suspects - NEVER give her this satisfaction. When a woman resorts to OVERT communication (COVERT being her native language) she's generally exhausted her patience to be COVERT and this is a desperation tactic for an insecure woman.

Just so you know, you're in the position of the girl who asks this sh!t.

 

[wolf116]

I told my x about the whole two chicks I had been with and what we did.
It made her horny.
I don't think most guys could pull it off though.

 

[comic_relief]

Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2
NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonsetly reveal the number of women you've slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

The single most disastrous AFC move a man can make is to OVERTLY describe past sexual experiences and/or give a number (accurate or not) to how many women he's been with prior to the one he's with. This simple act, whether you offered the information or she dragged it out of you, ALWAYS comes off as pretensiousness and is often the catalyst for an avalanche of emotional resentment, if not outright emotional blackmail from an insecure woman. This is a rookie mistake that will only take you once to learn.

If a woman puts you on the spot by directly asking you for this information always sidestep this COVERTLY. C&F works wonders in this situation and still keeps the air of mystery and challenge about you.

Her: "So how many girls have you been with?"
You: "You're my first actually"
Her: "Really, how many girls have you been with?"
You:" You mean tonight?"
Her: "C'mon, how many girls have you been with?"
You: "You know, I really lost count after 50" (or something outrageous).

When a woman asks you this question she is seeking confirmation of what she already suspects - NEVER give her this satisfaction. When a woman resorts to OVERT communication (COVERT being her native language) she's generally exhausted her patience to be COVERT and this is a desperation tactic for an insecure woman.

Just so you know, you're in the position of the girl who asks this sh!t.

Rollo,

I understand where you are coming from and what you mean by what you are saying. But I disagree with you on this subject. I am not trying to date an insecure woman. I am only interested in the most secure of women (I do use the plate theory as you describe it. I was spinning five different plates when I got my current girlfriend).

If they cannot take this type of conversation, then I am not in the mood to deal with them. If they cannot take that, then what else won't they be able to take.

I believe this rule is fine if you are going after insecure girls, but i would like to know what happens to this rule if the woman in question is secure and self-confident in her life?

What is your thoughts to this question...

comic_relief

 

[DavenJuan]

Rollo,

I understand where you are coming from and what you mean by what you are saying. But I disagree with you on this subject. I am not trying to date an insecure woman. I am only interested in the most secure of women (I do use the plate theory as you describe it. I was spinning five different plates when I got my current girlfriend).

If they cannot take this type of conversation, then I am not in the mood to deal with them. If they cannot take that, then what else won't they be able to take.

I believe this rule is fine if you are going after insecure girls, but i would like to know what happens to this rule if the woman in question is secure and self-confident in her life?

What is your thoughts to this question...

comic_relief

i dont think RT is simply saying that she cant "handle" this type of conversation.

i think the point is just that...THERE IS NO POINT.

ask yourself this question.

if you girl is self confident and secure, what need does she have to ask you this type of question??

IMO a self confident and secure women wouldnt care how many ppl etc etc. she would already KNOW that it is useless information that she need not obtain.

your thoughts....

 

[MacAvoy]

Rollo,

I believe this rule is fine if you are going after insecure girls, but i would like to know what happens to this rule if the woman in question is secure and self-confident in her life?

comic_relief

Personally I don't know many women that would want to enter a LTR with a guy who's admitted to sleeping with between 50-200 women. If you've been around the block more than once or twice, its a conversation you don't want to have.

Even if I told the LTR's I dated that it was 10-20 (a semi respectable #, not too high or low), I don't think they would have entered an LTR with me. Once you've confirmed verbally that you've slept around, it totally changes the dynamics of the relationship whereas if you keep it in their imagination, they can be attracted to you while they pretend you've only slept with a couple of women.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I am only interested in the most secure of women (I do use the plate theory as you describe it. I was spinning five different plates when I got my current girlfriend).

Comic, you should be proud of yourself. Self assurance is seldom used as a qualifier when sarging.

i think the point is just that...THERE IS NO POINT.

ask yourself this question.

if you girl is self confident and secure, what need does she have to ask you this type of question??

Exactly!! Although a part of gaining a better understanding of one another may include trading specific ideas about relationships which a past experience may be used as an example, a secure couple will seldom ask for the gory details of past relationships gone bad.

However if you want to hear something truly gory, there could be times where a secure couple may trade stories about the truly memorable good times which they've had in previous relationships. They recognize that those experiences has a direct correlation to what works in their current relationship.