I realize I am being a little arrogant in implying that I am at the top of my game, but let me just say this- guys who have got it together don't worry about whether it's alpha or not to do this or that. That's kind of the whole point.
Guys who have it together are the kinds who go out to a restaurant with a group of 8 guys and order a little salad, and rather than making fun of him for ordering such a girlie meal, they all order a salad.
He could be a sci-fi geek, into Star Wars or Star Trek.
He could like watching black and white movies.
He could like giving out advice on all kinds of different forums.
The point is, he does not give a sh!t if he is supposed to do any of it, because he has strong values and he lives by his own values, so he doesn't look at other people for approval, at all.
Guys who have it together are the kinds who go out to a restaurant with a group of 8 guys and order a little salad, and rather than making fun of him for ordering such a girlie meal, they all order a salad.
He could be a sci-fi geek, into Star Wars or Star Trek.
He could like watching black and white movies.
He could like giving out advice on all kinds of different forums.
The point is, he does not give a sh!t if he is supposed to do any of it, because he has strong values and he lives by his own values, so he doesn't look at other people for approval, at all.