Do too many of us try to be something we're not socially?

[bigdave17]

if you're not a super extroverted, super ****y joke teller, you can't try to be like that because people can smell fakeness from a mile away. Being genuine, comfortable with yourself and not coming across as needy or desperate are all absolutely huge socially.

For me personally, my biggest strength is that I can make people feel very comfortable around me socially. That's what I use to dominate at work - when people feel comfortable around you, they trust you

I think part of my issue has been that I've wanted a girlfriend so badly that I haven't been myself and women can sense that. It seems like the best results socially happen when you don't care, are super comfortable with yourself and others around you and then it just seemingly happens when you least expect it.

 

[spinich]

Not another Dave thread...please mods?

 

[TheProspect]

Everybody wears a mask. Some people are just able to wear theirs more convincingly.

No one behaves the same way universally in EVERY social situation EVERY time. Different masks for different contexts.

I think part of my issue has been that I've wanted a girlfriend so badly that I haven't been myself and women can sense that. I.

"Just be yourself" is not always a good strategy. Especially if you suck. Then the advice is "Just suck".

No woman likes a guy who just sucks...