"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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do time constraints work to get them to commit to a time by using jealousy?

pete101

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if a girl isn't commiting to a time for a date either from online or in real life is using a constraint to let you know by a certain time otherwise you'll have made other plans a good way to get her to commit?

(as in to show that if she doesn't commit to the time you'll just go do something else and when i mean something, another girl)

i dont know what would actually work.

i feel i need to punish her for not committing so if she does contact me to let me know she's free, i'll say i cant make it.

is it better to write 'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made other plans with someone by then.'

OR

'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made other plans by then'

OR

'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made other plans with someone else by then'

OR

'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made plans with someone else by then'

in writing it doesnt really indicate you got other girls lined up if i use the 2nd 1 but the 1st 1 does but is it being too obvious?

would it likely backfire if im tryna make her jealous?

i know 1 of these is the right option but i dont wanna make it too obvious nor want to p1ss her off as just another girl.. she should feel she was 1st priority cos i offered the time 1st but by me explicitly inferring i'll have made plans with someone else it'll be enough to get her to commit?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Holden Caulfield

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Okay, so I am going to post/respomd based upon many years of experience and keep it short and simple:

1) Analysis = Paralysis

2) Just be you

3) Let go of the outcome

When you follow these three simple rules, you will know what to do by intuition. You will not have to ask. It will all come naturally.

My two pesos, for what they are worth.

HC
 
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