"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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do time constraints work to get them to commit to a time by using jealousy?

pete101

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if a girl isn't commiting to a time for a date either from online or in real life is using a constraint to let you know by a certain time otherwise you'll have made other plans a good way to get her to commit?

(as in to show that if she doesn't commit to the time you'll just go do something else and when i mean something, another girl)

i dont know what would actually work.

i feel i need to punish her for not committing so if she does contact me to let me know she's free, i'll say i cant make it.

is it better to write 'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made other plans with someone by then.'

OR

'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made other plans by then'

OR

'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made other plans with someone else by then'

OR

'ok let me know by x day otherwise i'll have made plans with someone else by then'

in writing it doesnt really indicate you got other girls lined up if i use the 2nd 1 but the 1st 1 does but is it being too obvious?

would it likely backfire if im tryna make her jealous?

i know 1 of these is the right option but i dont wanna make it too obvious nor want to p1ss her off as just another girl.. she should feel she was 1st priority cos i offered the time 1st but by me explicitly inferring i'll have made plans with someone else it'll be enough to get her to commit?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Holden Caulfield

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Okay, so I am going to post/respomd based upon many years of experience and keep it short and simple:

1) Analysis = Paralysis

2) Just be you

3) Let go of the outcome

When you follow these three simple rules, you will know what to do by intuition. You will not have to ask. It will all come naturally.

My two pesos, for what they are worth.

HC
 
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