Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do some women prefer AFCs?

Austin Allegro

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Don't get me wrong, I think DJs are what most women want, but there seem to be a sizeable proportion of women, especially in the UK, who actually PREFER dating AFCs and who are repelled by DJ tactics.

The stronger, career orientated type of woman often seems to have an AFC in tow and seems to love ordering him around (which of course he lets her do).

Could this be because they prefer to be in control, or simply because they've never dated a DJ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FratAndDiddy

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i think what you are observing is the strong minded, selfish type chick who is playing by her own rules. most of these type women are leaders at their job and they don't need a strong man with brains in their lives (at the moment). this creates friction in a relationship. these type of women (in my opinion) aren't the motherly types.

to answer your question, i believe they prefer to stay in control with their toy chumps and avoid DJ'S. later on in life, they dump these chumps and find someone just like them. then, some continue to dig chumps and keep them on the side for boy toys.

the western culture has the same flow to it, whether you are in the UK, australia, any type of other country promoting western values, or over here in the US.
 

JohnJones

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Yes.

I have dated a professional (lawyer) woman who has made it very clear that she thinks her man should consider her "indispensible", and other fairly tale notions.

I care for her, and she expresses this in the context of her working hard enough to deserve this treatment, but I know that eventually if she doesn't get the prostration she is working for, it will cause problems.
 

WaterTiger

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A lot of "strong, career" women have had to compete with men to get the big jobs for so long that a strong male represents a threat to her. It's the DJs & power executives who've tried to keep her a clerk instead of the Senior Loan Manager she is now. She dates AFCs because they don't insist she put them first before the career she worked so hard for.

She might love having a DJ to come home to, but she's afraid he'd make her quit her power job and be a housewife (GASP!) She's terrified to give up her power to a man.
 

MrCode

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I say avoid these type of women like the plague, unless you are masochistic, want a challenge, or want to be competing with someone for the rest of your life.

I think a large number of these women have gotten so used to competing "in a man's world", that they no longer know how to be women.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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