Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do smaller towns give men better chances at dating (ltr) and becoming their ideal self?

tesla8520

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Since the city I live in has grown to over 100,000 inhabitants, I've begun to see how women are less interested in a single man, or less focused on making a single man happy.

Instead, when I go to rural towns, or towns with fewer than 10,000 inhabitants, I'm the prize.
The impact is that, even if there are fewer women, they are more interested.

So, if in the city you have 1,000 women, but only 10 are interested, in the countryside you have 100 women, but 10 are interested.
And the interest you receive is completely different.
Girls who have lived in the countryside, or in towns with fewer populations, aren't used to the stimuli of the city, so they aren't overstimulated. They have more tolerance.

That's why I'm seriously considering moving to a place with fewer inhabitants, 15 or 20,000 maximum.
Life is quieter, women are more interested, I can live frugal, there's no city stress, and I can drive to the city in just a 15-minute drive. I can go to the beach in just 20 minutes.

In my opinion, many men need to understand that their "advantage" is better spent in less populated areas. If there are high-status people and lots of money in the city, then you can't compete with them. You need to go where you can be happier with less, living more frugally, and creating your own little environment.


The city has always offered me "distance" and "promenades," with shops, restaurants, bars, etc. But I never feel as alive as when I take these walks in nature, when I truly connect with someone, when I have a barbecue, a picnic, a bike ride, a stroll by the sea.

Some might say that the city is better because the women are more sophisticated and have already tried everything, but I don't think that's actually the case. Many women who live in cities are truly unhappy because they see too many other women who have too much more than they do, while in less populated towns, there are only one or two truly rich people, rather than 100, so you realize that that's an extreme, rather than the norm.

It's a radical different lifestyle.

My thoughts.
How did it go for you?
What kind of experiences have you had?

I've also found this https://www.girlschase.com/content/urbanization-romantic-anonymity-and-birth-game
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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tesla8520

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In a city with a large population, a woman is always endlessly chasing a status boost with every new guy she lands. It's an incredibly different kind of game than what she can indulge in in a small town.
Today she's with the millionaire who runs two restaurants, but in the meantime, she's set her sights on the multimillionaire who owns a yacht, whom she met thanks to her current boyfriend.

The same doesn't happen so often in cities with fewer inhabitants.
A woman values the relationship more, rather than thinking of a man as a simple replacement for another man.

Women in cities have hundreds of men writing to them.
Women in smaller towns, you can count them on your fingers.

Female nature remains the same.
We know it.
Every woman responds to the same triggers.

And This is precisely why, guys, the more stimulation you give a woman, the less satisfied or happy she will ever be.
If you take a woman and two of her friends to an ice cream shop, then all three will be happy to get an ice cream and go away happily.
But if you take the three girls to a store that sells candy in a four levels building, then if she sees her friend buy two bags of candy, she'll buy three.
Not because she really wanted to, but because she wants to now.

We know how women work, and feminine nature can get out of control in an environment with so much stimulation.
Cities certainly have their advantages for casual dating, but if you're looking for women for a LTR, you should move to less crowded places, not because the women there are biologically different, but because less stimulation = a healthier life.

This is also where a solid man might shine.
If you are respectable guy, you find it hard to live off the city, just because the manipulation levels, and many men there are not your friends.
 

zekko

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I do think if you're looking for an LTR, you're better in a smaller community. I wouldn't want to go too small though. For some reason, women in big cities are more interested in plate spinning, or in fast paced serial dating.
 

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In our current social climate? Pursuing LTRs in NYC, DC, Los Angeles and whatever's left of Portland is more of a fool's errand than trying to persuade the average Muscovite to lay off the vodka in favor Dr. Pepper

I wouldn't personally put too much stock in San Francisco or Silicon Valley either, nonetheless there are men on this website who claim to have found these locales

Otherwise, everywhere else in the nation remains pretty solid on this front... The size of a town is of less importance than it's mileu, and only a few metropolitan areas have been savagely rocked by this iteration of "The Culture War" we've in the midst of for the past decade
 

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Since the city I live in has grown to over 100,000 inhabitants, I've begun to see how women are less interested in a single man, or less focused on making a single man happy.

Instead, when I go to rural towns, or towns with fewer than 10,000 inhabitants, I'm the prize.
The impact is that, even if there are fewer women, they are more interested.

So, if in the city you have 1,000 women, but only 10 are interested, in the countryside you have 100 women, but 10 are interested.
And the interest you receive is completely different.
Girls who have lived in the countryside, or in towns with fewer populations, aren't used to the stimuli of the city, so they aren't overstimulated. They have more tolerance.

That's why I'm seriously considering moving to a place with fewer inhabitants, 15 or 20,000 maximum.
Life is quieter, women are more interested, I can live frugal, there's no city stress, and I can drive to the city in just a 15-minute drive. I can go to the beach in just 20 minutes.

In my opinion, many men need to understand that their "advantage" is better spent in less populated areas. If there are high-status people and lots of money in the city, then you can't compete with them. You need to go where you can be happier with less, living more frugally, and creating your own little environment.


The city has always offered me "distance" and "promenades," with shops, restaurants, bars, etc. But I never feel as alive as when I take these walks in nature, when I truly connect with someone, when I have a barbecue, a picnic, a bike ride, a stroll by the sea.

Some might say that the city is better because the women are more sophisticated and have already tried everything, but I don't think that's actually the case. Many women who live in cities are truly unhappy because they see too many other women who have too much more than they do, while in less populated towns, there are only one or two truly rich people, rather than 100, so you realize that that's an extreme, rather than the norm.

It's a radical different lifestyle.

My thoughts.
How did it go for you?
What kind of experiences have you had?

I've also found this https://www.girlschase.com/content/urbanization-romantic-anonymity-and-birth-game
Small towns ain't what they used to be. Generally, they are not thriving. There are no jobs, so most people leave. The ones who stay are the elderly and the drug addicts. The depressing atmosphere of a dying community that has seen better days permeates everything. So I don't know what kind of "understimulated" girls you are expecting to find, but I doubt they are worth living in such a sh!tty environment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i agree with you. small pond big fish, or tiny fish in big pond... same fish...

i assume when you visit the small town you personally look like your are from the large one. dress, transport, manner..., dialect/how you talk. you look like an upgrade to the local area...

your describing the same things as a passport guy does.. moving to a new location where your relative placement is higher. really smart move. just think it through, make sure you do the math to make sure you keep your advantage.

some of those interested in the small town want to LEAVE with you. not just be with you.
 

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Nah man ..small town girl will travel 3 hours and stay with that man for years if needed....especially with OLD...

Most hot women will also be ran through. Be ready to share Stacey with everyone you know...

Small towns are simply bad for dating as its a numbers game.
 
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