"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do people really believe what they write on here

MaudGrimes

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So I'm at a bit of a low point a the moment. I shouldn't be. I've got a couple of plates spinning at the moment, banged one of them on Sunday and the other wants me to go visit soon.

I could, if I wanted, write about how plate spinning helps to keep your options open; you don't get hung up on one woman, if one disappears you have others to fall back on etc. I see this written a lot on here and although I can understand it to some extent I'd drop it all for one high quality woman to be in an exclusive relationship with. This is my issue at the moment - I haven't found a high quality woman in ages.

My question to regular posters is this: do you really believe all the stuff you post on here?

I think sometimes when you're on fire there's a temptation to post/gloat/tell others how they should be doing what you're doing...I'm not sure I believe everyone on here though.

I'm not slating anyone in particular and I always turn to this site in moments of crisis like this, but I doubt some of the stuff I read sometimes....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Daily Insanity

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I'm not sure about everyone else, but if you dont believe me take a look at my journal. It's all live audio, and more to come.
 

The Gambler

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My advice tends to be practical and simple. I will never tell someone that they should go on a skydiving "action date", take salsa lessons or learn a foreign language. Usually, the solution to someone's "problem" involves an improvement in:

1) verbal communication skills (in your native tongue),

2) physical appearance, i.e. style, grooming and hygiene, and/or getting closer to one's ideal weight based on their height,

3) social value,

4) confidence (the lack of confidence is solved by improving any or all of the three things listed above).

There are more practical ways to achieve personal improvement than skydiving. My advice would be to take that same amount of money and buy a decent wardrobe with it. Now don't misunderstand me... I'm not saying that the road to self-improvement is always easy (that bag of Doritos looks GOOD), but the plan itself really isn't so complicated.

The Gambler
 

seethehoop

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I wouldn't advise anyone until I've experience in the subject either but I've seen some obvious troll posts. Also many people ask some questions that are just a matter of common sense, these infuriate me to some degree but you have to accept that they may not be as experienced.

I think most things can be answered simply with one phrase...man the f*** up!
 

SteR

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MaudGrimes said:
So I'm at a bit of a low point a the moment. I shouldn't be. I've got a couple of plates spinning at the moment, banged one of them on Sunday and the other wants me to go visit soon.

I could, if I wanted, write about how plate spinning helps to keep your options open; you don't get hung up on one woman, if one disappears you have others to fall back on etc. I see this written a lot on here and although I can understand it to some extent I'd drop it all for one high quality woman to be in an exclusive relationship with. This is my issue at the moment - I haven't found a high quality woman in ages.

My question to regular posters is this: do you really believe all the stuff you post on here?

I think sometimes when you're on fire there's a temptation to post/gloat/tell others how they should be doing what you're doing...I'm not sure I believe everyone on here though.

I'm not slating anyone in particular and I always turn to this site in moments of crisis like this, but I doubt some of the stuff I read sometimes....
I think the whole plate-spinning concept is good because you have to remember that a lot of people visiting these boards are coming from a place where they're not very good with women.

The whole theory teaches guys to not give too much attention to a single woman/develop oneitis and that there should always be more options.

The problem, however, is that as you go about this, you'll often find that some women are in fact higher value than others. It doesn't matter if you're spinning four plates if one of them is a legit 9 in your eyes and the others are ~5. So yes, sometimes plate-spinning isn't the answer. Yes it'll get you laid, but if you're looking for something more then I personally think it comes down to persistence and patience. Spinning plates will just keep your skills sharp in the mean-time.

That's the way I see it anyway..

And yea, I'd take everything you read on these boards with a pinch of salt. There are a lot of bitter men on here that skew the information so I wouldn't take it as gospel truth, ha.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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vatoloco

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I'm just a good ol', honest-to-goodness Snake Oil salesman, trying a make a living...

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