Do others do this? Is it helpfull?

[Canadian Catnip]

If I meet a women and I see she is not in a good mood or is upset I will tend to leave her alone and get away from her. Not because I don't want to be around her, sometimes one of my first reactions is to ask her what her problems are and try to help. But these days if I meet a women who is mad or annoyed at something I will not spend a lot of time around her.

I saw a women yesterday I had not seen in over 20 days and I was happy to see her, I had some free time and I could have spent an hour with her. But she was in a crappy mood so instead of sitting with her I told her I had to go and left after 15 minutes.

I was told that you should not hang around a women you are interested in if she is upset because she could associate those feelings with you. And worse still she could make you her emotional tampon.

So these days if a women is huffing over something or appears to be too busy I will just bail and say, see you later. Of course if she is crying and really needs a friend I will stay but I am talking about those moods women get into where they just want to complain or b!tch.

Anyway I wanted to know if other guys that did this have found it to be a good practice or is it not a good thing to do?

 

[DJDamage]

I was told that you should not hang around a women you are interested in if she is upset because she could associate those feelings with you. And worse still she could make you her emotional tampon.

Its a good rule but you got to ask yourself this question: If they are interested in you, shouldn't just seeing you brighten their day??!!. Think of this in reversal: If you had a crappy day and some knockout bombshell started paying attention to you, wouldn't that make your day feel a little bit better?!

I have seen the difference between girls who are really interested in me and those who are not. Usually if they are in a crappy mood and they see me then will change their behaviour and become more cheerful. If they are lukewarm interested or not at all, then they will continue with their bad mood around you and try to infect you in a negative way. If a woman doesn't try to make you feel welcome, I say take off and let her stay in the cold rain alone.

 

[KontrollerX]

You're doing the right thing Catnip.

However don't even stay if she's crying about something unless its a relative dying or something else you know of thats serious in her life and she's already proven her worth to you as a friend or potential love interest by being there for you when you needed a lift.

What I'm saying is don't comfort her if she's crying over some el lameo chick bullsh!t that you yourself wouldn't cry over.

 

[Canadian Catnip]

Its a good rule but you got to ask yourself this question: If they are interested in you, shouldn't just seeing you brighten their day??!!. Think of this in reversal: If you had a crappy day and some knockout bombshell started paying attention to you, wouldn't that make your day feel a little bit better?!

I have seen the difference between girls who are really interested in me and those who are not. Usually if they are in a crappy mood and they see me then will change their behavior and become more cheerful. If they are lukewarm interested or not at all, then they will continue with their bad mood around you and try to infect you in a negative way. If a woman doesn't try to make you feel welcome, I say take off and let her stay in the cold rain alone.

I never put it into my post above but after I had enough of her mood and decided to leave she suddenly brightened up and made this don't go look.

Unfortunately I had already told her I had to be somewhere right away so I couldn't go back on that. But that look she gave me was part of the reason why I posted the question in the first place, It got me wondering if I had done the right thing by leaving.

She might not have felt cheered up to see me at first but I felt she was sad that I had decided to leave.

 

[Sandow]

Good Job

You've done your homework.

She'll get over it soon, mostly likely she was just in a bitter mood and needed to vent. Once she's in a better mood, I GUARANTEE she will call and apologize. And now that she's in a better mood, she's going to associate those feelings with you.