improvingdonjuan
Senior Don Juan
You have probably read this at some point in your life, or at some point in this forum. I am not going to give you a mind opening, all revealing post that will make you get it. However sometimes we need to remind ourself of a little something from time to time. The best way not to get discouraged, lose focus, or simply get frustrated in this game; is to analyze our purpose, our intent, and our progress.
What are you really looking for when you turn to sosuave? this question may seem silly. You might reply "date beutiful women of course" " have sex with as many pretty girls as we can" "find the love of our life" "find the one"
"to have fun". Well guys what is it? as you can see you could be looking for all of the above or just some. It is different from person to person, that is why you need to have a clear goal. This helps here and in the dating world, what do you ultimately want in an interaction with a girl?.That too should be on your mind.
Sometimes humans have something called, ambition, and we tend to lose sight of what we want. This leaves us unsatisfied, because we don't know what we are trying to thirst we are trying to quench. I wanted to get rid of the fear of approaching when i started at age 17 (i think).
I wanted to be popular
to stop being called nice
to be told i was attractive
to not get played
to not get manipulated
to be able to have the balls to say what was on my mind
to be able to be flirtatious
to be fun
to be social
to be cool
I acomplished that, but i was not happy. I wanted to date pretty girls
to kiss them
to scam, make out
to have sex
to jugle 3 females at one time
to considered a player
and I got that, I was not happy.
I wanted a quality girl
I wanted to be loved
I wanted a long term relation ship
and I got that. yet I was not happy.
WHY oh WHY, was I not happy? part of the problem is that I focused to much on what I was doing wrong. I focus on how I could have done better. I focus on what to correct, on how I messed up. Let me tell you something my friends, you will not have every girl, or everything you want. That is life, and life is tough right? WRONG. The only person that makes you miserable, that makes you unsatisfied, that makes you feel like you failed, that pushes you, that drives you, that critizises you, is yourself.
How about giving you a pat in the back from time to time. How about looking at your success instead of your failures. Although you learn MORE from your mistakes, you must not make them your only thoughts. You can't make what you WANT the main focus of your life, you need to pay attention of what you HAVE, and how much you have progressed. We get so caught up on progress, on pushing forward, on the future, on our goals. Yet we tend to forget about our present, which is sad because you ONLY live in your present.How about making your present the best dam present possible. How about telling yourself how great you are. How about looking at your surroundings and breathing the air and feeling greatness, the progress, the drive, the strength, the power, the life, the dreams, essence of THE GREATES BEING IN THE PLANET. The best thing the earth has to offer........................
YOU!!!!!!!!!
What are you really looking for when you turn to sosuave? this question may seem silly. You might reply "date beutiful women of course" " have sex with as many pretty girls as we can" "find the love of our life" "find the one"
"to have fun". Well guys what is it? as you can see you could be looking for all of the above or just some. It is different from person to person, that is why you need to have a clear goal. This helps here and in the dating world, what do you ultimately want in an interaction with a girl?.That too should be on your mind.
Sometimes humans have something called, ambition, and we tend to lose sight of what we want. This leaves us unsatisfied, because we don't know what we are trying to thirst we are trying to quench. I wanted to get rid of the fear of approaching when i started at age 17 (i think).
I wanted to be popular
to stop being called nice
to be told i was attractive
to not get played
to not get manipulated
to be able to have the balls to say what was on my mind
to be able to be flirtatious
to be fun
to be social
to be cool
I acomplished that, but i was not happy. I wanted to date pretty girls
to kiss them
to scam, make out
to have sex
to jugle 3 females at one time
to considered a player
and I got that, I was not happy.
I wanted a quality girl
I wanted to be loved
I wanted a long term relation ship
and I got that. yet I was not happy.
WHY oh WHY, was I not happy? part of the problem is that I focused to much on what I was doing wrong. I focus on how I could have done better. I focus on what to correct, on how I messed up. Let me tell you something my friends, you will not have every girl, or everything you want. That is life, and life is tough right? WRONG. The only person that makes you miserable, that makes you unsatisfied, that makes you feel like you failed, that pushes you, that drives you, that critizises you, is yourself.
How about giving you a pat in the back from time to time. How about looking at your success instead of your failures. Although you learn MORE from your mistakes, you must not make them your only thoughts. You can't make what you WANT the main focus of your life, you need to pay attention of what you HAVE, and how much you have progressed. We get so caught up on progress, on pushing forward, on the future, on our goals. Yet we tend to forget about our present, which is sad because you ONLY live in your present.How about making your present the best dam present possible. How about telling yourself how great you are. How about looking at your surroundings and breathing the air and feeling greatness, the progress, the drive, the strength, the power, the life, the dreams, essence of THE GREATES BEING IN THE PLANET. The best thing the earth has to offer........................
YOU!!!!!!!!!