Do not be passive.

[Hair stylist]

Hello

One thing i have noticed with men is they will often be passive to a woman they admire, or just any woman in general. This is not a good thing all of the time.

Good example, when a woman insults a man, and its usually 99 percent play but one percent of how they feel, men will usually not know what to say, act abashed, smile and look at the floor, or let out a half hearted laugh. This is not a good thing. I am not saying shoot back with a nasty retorn or clench your fists and get upset, but when a woman is giving you some barb, you have to dominate her. You have to say something back sternly, instead of being passive. Great example from my end: The other day i am at a social event with a friend, friend leaves to pick someone up and i find a chair. Next to me is a group of three women talking about how much they hate men, how disgusting they are etc. One of them looks over to me during the conversation and says in a playful yet smart assed manner "Sorry no offense man." Instead of doing what a lot of guys would do, smile inauthentically and look at the floor, i said "Do not put me in the same catagory as the losers that you date." They looked SHOCKED. They are not used to being talked to like this, and trust me, unless theyre a complete, cold hearted *****, they LIKE it. All three of them now talk to me pretty regularly, and i consider them good prospects for future engagements.

What i am saying is dont be walked on, even if it is just the spirit of a joke, be spirited and joke right back, but be stern, and believe what you are saying. You will open up quite a few doors.

 

[SilverSonnet]

Wow, nice post dude. Your new, and your already making good comments. I'll be sure to put this advice to use.

 

[Lion]

Good post, that's some cast-iron advice with a neat example.

 

[fertileTurtle]

I am not saying shoot back with a nasty retorn or clench your fists and get upset...

Hey that works sometimes too.

 

[Gibraltar]

Thanks for the tips.

Some female got me pretty good last year with one of these tests.I was at some apartment, and there were some random people there. Of course, I went to introduce myself and shook everyone's hand.This one chick, not even hot, says: "I don't shake hands." And I said nothing in return but just rolled my eyes.

I won't let this crap happen again. Thanx again for the motivation! +rep

 

[babsan]

"okay let's kiss then"

 

[DJDamage]

I like your comeback to these women, I will have to use that someday.

However there is one flaw to the whole being "passive act". Instead of being passive how about not give a sh1t what they think?! Its neither passive or active.

 

[Vice]

"Do not put me in the same catagory as the losers that you date."

That statement in itself can be turned into a powerful mindset.

Props to you for an awesome post.

 

[Hair stylist]

I like your comeback to these women, I will have to use that someday.

However there is one flaw to the whole being "passive act". Instead of being passive how about not give a sh1t what they think?! Its neither passive or active.

You have a point, and youre right. But what i was getting at isnt so much caring what someone thinks, but not allowing yourself to be dominated. Theres a difference between not caring what people think and someone directly trying to have dominance over you. But youre right, caring what others think should not be ones priority.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Great post. I can't believe an afc or agent of the matrix hasn't come in to this threat yet to tell us how we are supposed to not sound mean to girls.